We did a thing about PND in my ante-natal class and a lot of the symptoms rang true to me at the moment. I'm 32 + 5
don't want to go into maasive details but I have had depression all my life, can remember thinking about suicide at 11yrs old and once I came off Prozac when I got pregnant my mother and my partner both said they 'watched me go back down' so to speak.
I'm very up and down at the moment, I keep having days where I feel I can't cope, cry all the time, feel sick, have to force myself to eat etc. I'm finding work exhausting and painful as I'm walking around all day on a sandy unlevel surface (indoor riding school) and my pelvis is not happy! I have a pain in my upper back that means I can't sit or lie for long periods and in the evenings I feel too exhausted to stand but don't really know what to do with myself.
Keeping rowing with partner and I always end up in tears - usually about stupid stuff like cleaning and tidying. I end up spending every evening obsessively cleaning, partly because I can't sit down and relax due to back pain but partly because I feel so stressed I can't switch off. I also feel guilty everytime I get comfortable as am aware that baby is currently back-to-back and i need to sit in 'constructive' positions... but they kick off this upper-back pain so much I can't relax.
I feel trapped that all the things i used to use to 'cope' with depression like self-harming, have a few drinks, thinking about suicide (would never do it but having the option is comforting) all seem to have been taken away due to imminent baby. Can't face going out even if had the energy as I feel so unattractive (I've always been slim and confident about my looks) and also it is taking everything I have just to be upbeat and cheerful and 'happy' faking-it at work all day working with the disabled children.
I'm so worried that I will end up with PND after the birth and miss all the wonderful first months/year with my baby as I already feel I am not enjoying being pregnant and all the anticipation and excitement I would love to have. I have wanted a baby for years and years.
can you get PND before the birth? Or is this just the old depression coming back? I didn't find my new MW (just moved) sympathetic or nice - she didn't notice when I accidentally started crying in my first appointment with her - so I don't want to talk to her. Is there anything I can do now to help prevent PND or to take control again without resorting to Prozac again? Will be back on prozac after birth - one thing to look forward to!!!