My midwife is tutting and moaning at me.

[RichardCranium]

She's truly lovely but I need some advice here.

Pregnant with DC3, DH is away until I'm due. He will fly in on my actual due date.

Midwife is really unhappy about this and phoning me twice a week to check I'm OK. she's really nice but she's starting to panic me. I'm coping and pretty sure I will be at 39 weeks, but am now wondering if I'm being naive? Was fine (from what I can remember) at the end of my last two pregnancies. Problem is, I don't have any other option but to get on with it, so for my mental healths sake I need her to keep her negative comments to herself!

Don't want to offend her but I need her to back off a bit!

she souinds a bit weird tbh!
i wonder what she is like if she ever gets any single mums?
bizarre.

I think she is being a little over the top tbh, single mum's to be have to cope. I would tell her you are grateful for the care but can she please cut down the calls as it is making you panic more.

Screen the calls.

If you have no other option then there's no point giving you grief about it. Tell her nicely that you are grateful for her concern, that you have arrangements in place, and that you'd rather not talk about it any more.

from what I can gather she's the sort of Woman who won't even entertain the idea of a pregnant single mother. Her comments about DH are close to becoming offensive.

Her behaviour seems a little bizarre to me! I would try to politely thank her for her concern, assure her that you are fine and that you don't need or expect her to keep checking up on you.

Isnt that kind of nice though - ignoring the sheer annoyingness of her? She wants to check you are ok? I know how irritating over concern can be in pregnancy but stepping back kind of nice?

I had a lovely midwife last time - I would not have trusted her one per cent to actually deliver a baby but she was like a lovely grandmother. Even went in my kitchen and made me a sandwich once when I said (with pnd) that I had lost my appetite.

just screen the calls like fab says. time to worry is when all the midwives are out the country and arnt coming home till last minute. surely midwife being there on the day is more important.

Its not really her business providing you have some other support incase you go into labour before that date - no reason why would wouldn't be fine right up to the end.