Should I go? WWYD?

[eekamouse]

Regular in disguise here - have just discovered I am 6 wks PG. Bit of a suprise but we are happy about it. I don't really want to tell anyone yet, its so early and I am still geting used to it tbh.

Its a good friend's birthday party this weekend, abut 2 hours train journey away. I don't see her very often but go to her party every year, and have been planning to go for months - even have a weekend babysitter for DD arranged. Lots of friends from all over who I also don't see very often will be there too, its a bit of a reunion for a goup of us.

Her parties are always v v loud/boozy/smokey affairs with everyone crashing on the floor/sofa in the early hours - usually this is right up my street not a problem but under the circumstances I don't know whether to go. I feel a bit sick and very tired, and not at all up for it really. But I would love to see everyone and as DP says, I should make the most of being able to go out.

One of my early PG symptoms appears to be the inability to make a decision! Help!

I would avoid it I think and make my excuses. I found out I was pregnant with ds the day before New Years Eve some time ago, I didn't want anyone to know either, just wanted to get used to it myself really.

I went along to our usual NYE do and made an excuse about having a headache and driving so not drinking and absolutely everyone referred to me being pregnant. The drunker they got the more they commmented - I was gutted and it ruined the evening. My friends are generally big drinkers (or were before kids turned up!) so it was immediately noticeable for me to be teetotal.

Maybe use the weekend off to go away with dp and get used to your news, it seems a shame to waste a weekend of freedom.

or buy non alcoholic wine and cunningly decant it into a different bottle, you'll just have to remember to slur at the right point in the evening ...

Go, just say you are on anti-biotics ergo can't drink. Make sure you bag the best spot for sleeping which should be easy enough if you stay sober.

Personally, I wouldn't go. You'll be knackered anyway. But if you DO go, don't buy non-alcoholic Kopparberg (sp?) cider. I used it for just such an occasion, and it is rank.

When I found out I was pg this time it was just before we had 3 really big weekends lined up - the first time in 2 years we were actually going to do something and I was gutted! We had a day at the races, a dear friends wedding and DS's christening and I had been looking forward to letting my hair down at all 3...

I went along, it was nice to get dressed up at least! And I got DP to go to the bar and get me lime and soda in a small glass so it looked like vodka and soda. Once everyone else had a few drinks they didn;t notice I wasn't drinking. If someone bought me an acoholic drink I took a teeny weeny almost pretent sip and then "misplaced" it when they weren't looking.

It's easy enough to cover up - I was sure people would cotton on but no one did. I still had a great time, although I was quite tired. But certainly no worse than I would have felt the next day had I been partying!

Tough one. Id be saying I had a bug/flu/broken leg .

It's the smokey part that's the worst. Besides it being a bad start for the baby, it'll make you wretch. You'll probably find that a party that would usually be brilliant, would be utter pants.
Your head (and stomach) will be elsewhere and they will be nissed as pewts! Very annoying when your sobar!

I was always the one dancing on the coffee table and probably the most drunk at the average party but after being PG with DS I went off drink quite a bit as Im surrounded by 'drinkers'! Too many party's with drunks whilst sobar has turned me almost tee-total - and you don't want that!!

Have you name changed? I recognise that name!

Erm Congratulations!

I would go anyway as it will look really obvious if you don't, you have organised a babysitter and you will see your old friends.