Can all those suffering depression during their pregnancies please come here?

[Rhubarb]

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Come on you lot, I know you're out there!

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I was not diagnosed, but looking back I think I had this with DD, I was very depressed and wondered why I had 'bothered getting pregnant' in the first place,

I felt very low and took it all out on DH, it was a very rough time,

It didn't carry on after the baby was born though and I bonded with her immediatly which is something I worried alot about in the early months.

I never spoke about it but Im sure your midwife would have advice.

Ah now I bonded immediately with mine too. Not so much with ds, but certainly with dd. Although was a home birth and I think I was in shock at how bloody huge he was - and I was mightily pissed off that he made me tear AND the midwife wouldn't let me have a glass of Baileys.

Mine was a homebirth too, I was terrified of her being huge and tearing but they really were not the issues that made me so down,

In all honesty I don't know what was up with me, I should ahve been so happy but I suppose that is the nature of depression, there are often no explinations, it just takes over.

I also felt very guilty for feeling that way, even more guilty now when I look back on some of the things I said

Don't feel guilty. It wasn't your fault. Just shower them with love now. I could beat myself up about how I felt back then every day, but it won't help me or my kids. They are very much wanted now and that's all they've ever known.

Had post natal depression both times andthis time have suffered since finding out I was pregnant. Unplanned but wanted baby. Struggling daily with temper, severe feelings of self hatred combined with real worries about how I will cope with three, as well as how my 2.3 y old will be affected. Health professionals showing a remarkable lack of interest. Happyto talk to others needing support - not sure I'd be much help tho!

Help is out there you guys, but you have to fight for it (especially with yourselves ie getting to the GP and being honest about how you are really feeling). Antenatal depression, apparently, is as least as common as postnatal it just seems less acceptable because people don't tend to admit they have a problem.

Get help, meds are ok and won't harm your baby.

Good luck.

I'm completely in a trance at the mo, panic attacks, asked to be put into psychiatric hospital, they wont listen, sent me home with a leaflet on panic attacks.

Hi hun,
I am on medication for my depression and anxiety. Citalopram 20mg. When i found out that i was pregnant i tried to come off them but it was such a disaster! i nearly had a breakdown so my gp put me back on them and i got refered to a consultant.
I saw the consultant 2 weeks ago and he said that it was perfectly safe to take the pills i am on during pregnancy, and i was so relieved!
All i worried about was the effect my tablets was gonna have on the baby, and it turned out i was worrying for nothing.
I know that there was no way i would cope if i werent able to take the citalopram, so all in all i am very happy now and my depression is under control xx

Just wanted to say hi all. I am 7 weeks pg and feel like complete shit. I have severe sickness, have been signed off work and although I don't feel suicidal I do feel like death at the moment would be a blessed relief. I know that sounds over dramatic, but I feel so awful. I have a 2 year old I am unable to look after, if I move I'm sick at the moment, doctor said that if I don't rest completely and keep food down I will need to go on a drip. I know I'll feel better after I have the baby, but I just feel so desperatly miserable at the moment. The end seems so far off.