sooo tired at only 22 weeks..

[bodsmum]

I have hit a brick wall..i suddenly feel enormous and unwieldy although no one has 'helpfully'pointed it out so far.it's already getting hard to keep up with my toddler which has taken me by suprise as 17 more weeks of pregnancy loom ahead.she is at preschool 3 a.ms a week and up to now i have been doing the endless house jobs in those sessions but today i just read a book and i still feel listless.DD doesnt sleep brilliantly(but not endless wakenings)and i was anaemic at the beginning of my pregnancy and have had a couple of bleeds recently(low placenta but baby fine)and i've had 3 6 day weeks in a row as my husband wasn't around at weekends but do i need to just face the fact i'm a wimp and get myself a stiff upper lip as i'm sure there are ladies out there who are juggling more complicated lives than mine..

I completely understand how you feel - I am 22 weeks with no 2 and have never been so tired. Going to bed at 8:30 every night. I'm at work, too, which is in many ways easier being at home (no one notices if I stare out the window for several hours, if I were at home with my 20 month DD I couldn't do it!!)

Can you get any extra help around the house for the next while? Or send toddler to preschool more often?

I don't think you are being a wimp. People do juggle complicated lives in pregnancy but some people also feel great when they are pregnant. I am not one of these - spent first 17 weeks constantly vomiting and now tired all the time. I might prefer a more complicated life but more energy!

I'm barely 19 weeks but have gone into a feinting phase, the slightest bit of exertion in the morning and off I go...its really frustrating.
I used to be so active! Circuit training 3 times a week, dog walking 3 times a day and running around like a woman possessed at home and work...now if I'm not going to bed at 9/10 I'm snoozing on the couch or crying.
Really worried that if I can't deal with this how on earth am I going to manage a newborn!!! I rather stupidly read some of the thread about coping with newborns and lack of sleep and I'm really stressed out now!! I'm a useless wreck if i miss a nights sleep.
So I completely commiserate!
My mother thinks its my age, I'm 35 and this is my first...and to imagine I used to be one of those ignaramous's that wondered what all the fuss was about! LOL
I'm just going to keep telling myself this is a magical time and I will look back on it all fondly...at some point! :O

Pagen, do you mean looking back fondly on being pregnant???

I remember my NCT teacher saying during my first pregnancy that after the baby was born we'd ALL look back and wish we were pregnant again. I have to say that has never happened to me!! Not once. There is very little I enjoy about being pregnant, although I am very thankful that I am healthy and the baby is, touch wood, healthy.

I am also normally active and buzzing with energy so I know just how you feel. One thing that made me feel better while I was pg with no 1 (and it proved to be absolutely right) was that having a pregnancy where you didn't feel great eased your body in to the shock of having a newborn. If you go great guns till 40 weeks living life just as normal then the change in a routine is a shock. If you've been fainting etc you will probably feel way better after giving birth!

I need a lot of sleep too and found life with a newborn hard but not nearly as hellish as that thread on how difficult can it be described. Had I read that while pregnant with my first I might have collapsed in horror!

Thanks for that Roary, made me feel a lot better knowing I'm not the only one but I geuss thats the rule with these sort of sites...take what you find useful and ignore the stuff that frightens the pants off you (as long as its not necessary to pay attention).

Go as easy on yourself as you can. Another here who is in bed at 8:30pm most nights. It isn't forever so just do what you need to do to get by.

Have to say this thread makes me feel loads better. Am totally exhausted at 17 weeks. Don't remember feeling like this last time. Am utterly knackered and prone to tears, keep falling asleep and can barely keep going. Good to hear am not a freak and others are suffering!

I'm 33 weeks now, and since 28 weeks or so have just felt totally worthless. I have achieved 1-2 hours useful activity today. Just feel so guilty at being able to accomplish so little...I thought I'd be able to organise my entire life while pregnant!

I don't even have other children or a job (I'm self employed- and that, believe me, is winding riiighht down...).

Roary, thanks for confirming my sneaking suspicion that pregnant women who carry on with their desk jobs get quite a bit of "down" time in- I did wonder how you all managed!

Pagen, I read that thread too- arrrrrggghhh! Did you see, however, that there's one around today all about babies who sleep 12 hours a night from about 4 weeks? Much, much more comforting!

15 weeks and b**y knackered - struggling with work and home and feel rubbish. Done this twice before but older now and hating this pregnancy even more than the others. Yes newborns are hard but much better than this - I don't yet look any different and am expected to function normally but really can't. The thing about babies is accepting that you can't control their demands and enjoy cuddling them as they're gorgeous. There is nothing good about this. What happened to my 2nd trimester bloom?

stubbornstains you have done so well to get to 33 weeks before winding down. I'm 20 wks with dc4 and my self employment has pretty much screeched to a halt. Every order that comes in is a source of irritation rather than joy.

GOd, I bloody hate being pregnant.

Never got the 'bloom' last time and am just coming out of hyperemeisis atm with number 2.

There is good reason for the 4 year gap!

I spent most of last pregnancy crying because I was so knackered. It is the pits, but as others say, only temporary. Also has a purpose, so not that pointless feeling of illness. (SOmetimes )

To all those who are very tired all the time esp after having decent nights sleep - do mention this to midwife or GP.

It may just be normal pregnancy tiredness but it also could be a sign of iron deficiency or underactive thyroid so if its debilitating best to speak to GP or midwife about being tested for these things.

To All, There is such comfort in knowing I'm not the only miserable mum-to-be LOL
I'm 22 weeks now and have just spent a very restless night with no sleep after bambino decided to start doing cartwheels and karate practise about 7pm yesterday and so far hasn't stopped!!!
My back is killing me, I'm tierd and weepy and my tummy feels like its been used as a prop in the ALIEN movie stomach bursting scene!!
Please tell me this creature is going to go back to sleep at some point, I was soooo looking forward to feeling my little angel move but now i swear if the little devil doesn't stop bouncing around I'm going to get a baseball bat to it!!
Is it normal for them to be sooo active for so long? Or do you just get used to this?

Oh, to MumNWLondon, thank you for the advice - you are absolutely right but yes, I have already been tested for everything under the sun...several times.
The feinting is due to low blood pressure and low blood sugar which i seem to be getting a handle on and I have called the midwife again this morning about bambino' all-nighter! Just waiting on a call back....