Baby due mid February (London) -suddenly feeling scared

[Genevieve10]

Hello all

This is my first post on Mumsnet. My baby is due mid February (I am now 28 weeks) I have mostly loved this pregnancy but am just beginning to get jittery and today had a quite overwhelming feeling of fear, panic, responsibility and god knows what other worrisome thoughts about becoming a Mum. Suddenly just felt really lonely and scared......

Would be nice to hear from anyone else who has had same fears. I know this is all totally 'normal' - whatever that is!! but feeling vulnerable as bump gets bigger and it is all becoming very very real!!!

Got lovely boyfriend but still be nice to hear from the girls who really know what it feels like!!

Genevieve - welcome to Mumsnet!!! Can I give you a huge (very un-MN-like) before anyone catches me!

Of course it's normal. It's a massive responsibility and it's something you've never done before.

But now think about it: roughly how many women do you think have done it in the past and survived? I say this because although I didn't worry about having my first time I am more daunted now that I'm preg with no 2. So I keep reminding myself that billions of women have gone ahead of me, billions more will in the future, and I will be fine.

What are your support structures around you - do you have an understanding family (here I'm really referring to female relatives as you'll find most of the male ones won't get so involved - unless you have an unusually amazing dad)?

You and I will be fine, fine, fine. And you have just joined one of the BEST sources of support and hilarity you could ask for!

Hello
welcome to Mumsnet!
Have you found the antenatal clubs yet?
I can't seem to find the feb thread but there are some March ladies waiting for their arrivals here and I'm sure that you'll find loads of support from one of the threads on there
But yes, what you feel is completely normal
Best of luck with the impending arrival and finding Mumsnet before you have your PFB is definitely a GOOD thing

whereabouts in London are you? do have a look on mumsnet local as you might find some mums doing local meetups or good suggestions for mother and baby groups.

Having a network of coffee friends after the birth definitely helps take the edge off

Welcome to mumsnet. I too am due in Feb and would like to formally invite you to join or ante natal club! Click on talk topics - becoming a parent - ante natal clubs, and there we are under the heading Feb2010 - part 3. We are a mix of first time and more experienced mums and would love to have you come and join us.

Hi there,

I'm with chinook on the February antenatal thread and would love you to join us. CONGRATULATIONS! I too am expecting my first and find myself excited, daunted, sad, fat, ugly, happy, beautiful, confident, terrified, etc almost all the time, often going the whole gamut within the space of half an hour!

I have found the panic has increased over the last couple of weeks, as I know that we'll be taken up by Christmas things for a while and then when that's over, we'll really be on the home stretch.

But I am mostly ridiculously over excited about meeting the little person inside me, who spends most of her time doing cartwheels, stretches and the can-can. I can't wait to meet her.

See you on the antenatal thread.

Hi Genevieve10,

Im 28 weeks pregnant to and due mid Feb with my first baby!!
Know exactly what you mean. I have started having dreams about baby arriving etc.
It is very scarey. Also have a supportive husband but as much as they try to be there they cant fully understand what a massive responsibility it is to carry yours & yours partners child.
My husband gets annoyed when I get anxious over the slighest change in babys movements and i phone the midwife.
Thats what they are there for and the midwife just says that im right to check!
Hope you find a support group. I live in a big old house we just moved to 300 miles from my parents and no other family locally so know how it feels to be lonely especially now. Keep your chin up and im sure you are going to be a great mum.

Hey flying cloud!!

Im having a little girl to and you have got to a Tee the exact movements my little one does and I cant wait to meet her to even though im very very scared about the whole thing!!!

Take care of you and your little one.

Hey guys, I've just joined MN today, due 12th Feb, and am so excited, altho like you say, going through phases of panicing like hell! will all be worth it tho =]
xxx

Genevieve and Nikki welcome to mumsmnet.

As chinook and flyingcloud have said come on over to the Due Feb antenatal thread.. wouldlove for you to join us there.