Am worried as to why I am not excited?

[LadyOfTheFlowers]

I have 3 lovely boys (4, 3 and 11m) and on Friday had my 20 week scan for DC4.

Some of you will already know the scan went fine and they told me this baby is a girl.

I wanted a girl so much when I was preg with DS1 and when I was scanned with DS2 I accepted I would not have a daughter and was fine about it. I spent time with my niece who's mother is not very maternal so she enjoyed it as much as I did - wanted me to cuddle her all the time, do her hair, paint her nails etc.

I became preg. with DS3 - I was trying for a baby, DH wasn't iykwim. He knew I was not on the pill or anything like that but chose to be lax with the contraception anyway. He dotes on DS3 and he is a real 'Daddy's Boy'.
When I was scanned with DS3 and the sonographer told me it would be a boy, then looked and it was, I was a bit upset, for about an hour, I cried when she told me - totally unexpected - I didn't think I was that bothered. Got over it, 3 was the limit.

Pregnant this time - total suprise - had sex once after a few drinks, DH withdrew, fell preg.
Had started thinking of boys names and had some picked out.
Cravings have been totally diff. this time and I have just felt different this time - I had a strong gut feeling this baby was a girl right from the start which I have never had either way before.

So sonographer says it's a girl and shows us in a lot of detail why she thinks so because I say I don't believe her- looks very convincing - you could very clearly see the girly bits.
I'm happy and smiling, DH is over the moon, drives us to Mothercare to buy a little pink bunny as a way to break the news to my mother who is waiting at home with DS2 & 3.

My brothers are there too, hugging me and everyone is so happy. Then that's it.

I have wanted a girl for so long but I am not excited?
I have sorted a name out for her as I had lots of ideas from thinking of names when preg with DS1&2.

Apart from that - I have can't imagine having a girl.
Looking at girls clothes in Mothercare was bizarre - they looked alien and like stuff other people buy.

I am being scanned again on Friday as they couldn't see the heart properly as she was facing inwards and wouldn't move - despite my best efforts to move her - so if it is a different lady, which it probo will be, I will ask her to look at the sex too.

Can anyone tell me why I am not excited? I feel dreadful - I have always wanted a daughter too and now it looks like I will have one, I am not excited.

Sounds to me like it hasn't sunk in yet, you can't believe it after 3 little boys Don't worry about it, im sure you will be really excited when it comes to packing all these little pink things in your hospital bag!

Good luck and don't be too hard on yourself, give it time to sink in and you will be just as excited as you have the other 3 times!

It is quite strange being pregnant with a child of unexpected sex.

I have 3 brothers and my first child was a boy. DH only has a brother. There are no females anywhere apart from me and when I got pregnant with my 2nd, we all just assumed it was a boy. We were even referring to the bump as "DS's brother" (prior to 20wk scan). Then I had my 20wk scan. It was really strange being told my DD (now nearly 2) was a girl. It was totally bizarre and I wondered how I would look after her (I am a bit of a tomboy myself!). Anyway, it has been absolutely fine, it will be fine for you - you are probably not "excited" because it is such a bizarre feeling having boys everywhere and having accepted having no girls.

Buy a few pink things and you'll get used to it. I have to admit that today, my DD is dressed in a red top with an aeroplane on it (which should be on a boy ). But anyway, it will be OK and fun!

I am hoping it's just that it hasn't 'sunk in' yet.

Hi - I am pg with dc3 and already have 2 boys. I am nowhere near the 20wk scan yet but I think if I am told I am having a girl this time I would feel the same as you. I am used to boys, it is what I know - a girl would feel strange and different.

But, with ds1 I did want a girl (like you) and was worried how I'd cope with a boy. i soon realised when he was born that his gender didn't matter at all, he was just a baby, my baby.

So I do know in my heart that even though I would be weirded out by the prospect of a girl that when she was born it wouldn't matter any more.

Congratulations by the way!!!

Perhaps it's just taking a while to sink in. When I was pg with my dd we decided we didn't want to know the sex but I felt she was a boy & couldn't imagine having a girl. I was really pleased to have a girl but it took a few weeks to sink in that she was a girl & that was after she was born & I could see her with my own eyes! It took a while for me to get into the whole pink thing, I dressed her very neutrally for ages & people often assumed she was a boy. I hated pink & really preferred boys clothes but I soon changed my mind. I'm now pg & wondering what it will be like if I have a boy as I've been brainwashed by my dd into pink & princesses & fairies etc!

i have 2 brothers and am a real tomboy - always have been - love football, can't be bothered with jewellery or make up apart from for special occasions, never, ever wore pink and fave colour blue

always wanted boys and had DS who is brilliant - got really stressed when discovered was pg with a girl 3 years later - never had any idea what to buy my niece for birthday/xmas (she's a year older than DS) as just didn't get girly stuff

fast forward a few years - DD is amazing, my pal and I have discovered my pink side. I feel sorry for the old me who didn't have a daughter! how did I cope all those years with just smelly boys???

Am pg again and would happily have another wee girl (a boy would be great too!)

don't worry and when she arrives it'll be much easier than you think