Myself and my boyfriend know we don't want to get married for at least a few years, if ever, but are expecting our first child in october. only problem is he wants the baby to have his second name, and i am unsure about this. He says as we are giving it an english first name then the surname should reflect his nationality or it will be 'lost'. don't know what to do as he is the only chld and his family name will be lost, but i don't want the hassle and strangeness of my child having a different name to me. has anyone else had a similar experience?