Another Child at 38?

[LOOBYLOU2]

I had my first baby at 35 and I am in a real dilemma about having another - I'm now 38
Older Mums out there please help

Women having babies at 47 and 48 ?!

Face it, L, you're a mere youngster at 38

Go on!!

My Mum had No3 = Aged 36, No4 = 40!! She stopped there though.

Thanks for all your comments
Besides the pregnancy and birth issues, I felt I would be the oldest Mum in the playground
Of course I wouldn't - there's loads of us out there!!!!

I was 38 when I had dd, she's 4 now and I'm by no means the oldest mum in the playground! There are lots of younger mothers than me, but there are also lots of older ones.

where do you live looby? the n.london hospital i was in was pretty much equal between 2 groups: v young mums (some in their teens) with quite a few kids and oldies like me and all the other mn'ers

So what if you are the oldest mum in the playground - someone has to be

(But you won't be)

Hi Bundle
I live in Nottinghamshire
When I had my daughter the average age on the
ward was about 18!

Try and project yourself forward 5 years and think about your family. Do you think you'd regreat not having another or would you be perfectly happy with just dh and your dd?

For ages after having dd (at 33) I was quite happy with the thought of just dh and her, then it suddenly changed as she grew a bit older and I felt a real urge to add to our family. It took me 2 whole years to conceive, so I'm glad I didn't wait much longer. This one will be born when I'm 37 and dd is just 4 and I can't wait. If you take the plunge then, yes, some things will be scary, they always are when you have a baby, but the pros outweigh the cons IMO.

Put it this way: when I got pg with dd I remarked to a friend who had 3 kids that I felt like I was jumping off a cliff as it felt such a big thing. She replied 'No it's not like that - at least if you jump off a cliff you know you're going to hit the ground eventually. Having a family is more like a never-ending roller-coaster'. And it's struck me many times since how true that is! Good luck whatever you decide.

Just had my 2nd (not 4 weeks ago yet) at 40. 38? Pah! You're a baby yourself

Agree utterly with Tinker, you are a slip of a girl.

I had 1st at 31, 2nd at 34, 3rd at 37 and 4th at 42. You have loads of time. Have several

I was nearly 38 when ds was born (my only one).

I'm fine, he's fine. go ahead.

Just browsed the thread, I'm in Notts too, so what if the other mums were too young .

I am the oldest on the school run, but don't give a toss (most days)

mum was 47 when she had me

mum had no 3 at 40 and no 4 at 45!

I love it when people assume I'm 20 cos I have a 3 year old! (til they meet me, I mean, obviously lol)

you have to do it... just so cute watching your babes playing together and walking hand in hand or playing hide and seek or ganging up on their Dadd to tickle him when he is asleep on sofa...

(before I get jumped on by the single child brigade, I don't think there is anything wrong with being an only, but IMHO, watching the 2 together is just amazing...)

Hello

I had my son at age 32 - I'm now approaching 38 and 28 weeks pregant. It is certainly harder as you get older - but I ca'nt wait to meet the little person - and my son is so excited too!

Love Helenx

I had my first at 36 last Oct and am now 37 and expecting no. 2 in Nov. I thought the age thing would have been brought up by doctors/midwife but it has never been mentioned. As far as I'm aware mums over 35 are treated the same as everyone else nowadays. Go for it! FWIW I couldn't have faced being pg in my 20s - I was too busy working and partying!

Hey Loobylou2 and Easy - I'm a Notts girl too! Are you coming to the meet-up on 11th August at Nottingham Castle? As I posted earlier I'm 38 and my 2nd bump should be definitely showing by then - like it's not going to be showing by the end of the month!

I do sympathise Loubylou. I had my first at 41. I'm 43 now and in a total quandary about whether to have another or not. I have a step-d of 9 who doesn't live with us, so dd does have a sibling, but it still isn't the same to me as having another of my own, as lovely as my dsd is. On the one hand, it doesn't make sense financially, we only have 2 bedrooms, and I'm looking forward to dd going to pre-school and getting back to doing some exercise and maybe some cleaning , but on the other hand I can't bring myself to get rid of any of dd's baby stuff yet. If I didn't have dsd though I wouldn't want dd growing up without a sibling.

I really don't think your age is an issue, but I do understand totally your dilemma.

Hi Hotmama
Yes I'd read about the meet up at the Castle
I'll see what I can do