ANyone seriously contemplated or had a termination due to awful hyperemisis?

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Please do not have a go at me.
I am looking for a bit of support tbh. I am totally unable to function atm and spend most days unable to get my head off the pillow.
I am seriously feeling unable to go on with this pregnancy especially not knowing when / if it will go or not.

Nicky I had very bad nausea both times, didn't vomit (I can't, it would seem) but yes both times accepted as HG and I booked to terminate the second time partly because of it...there were other issues as well but it was so so unbearable I didn't think I could go on.

Interested to hear about acupuncture as I had heard that works before...I'm definitely giving that a go next time.

I had a couple of injections of metoclopramide which worked very well - maxolon it's called.

Never tried zofran but again an option for next time I hope and I would go private just to get it if necessary...

Completely understand how you feel and I will be praying for you to get the help you need. xx

just to add that it definitely got bearable around 13-14 weeks - still v bad at times, but it didn't totally eclipse my mind and body, so i could think about something else for a while iyswim. I was also on stemetil supps for a while and cyclizine did nothing though have hear if you take it for a few days it builds up and starts to work? Worth a try in the interim.

hydration can really really help if there's a way you can stand to get it. I always found if I stopped worrying about food, and just had maybe milkshake or something with lots of ice, I often felt I could eat later on because I was slightly rehydrated and dehydration is a big big cause of nausea - you'd be surprised!

Sorry if no help but trying to think of everything.

This time round I had really bad morning sickness, not hyperemisis level (I was able to stay hydrated) but it was bloody awful right up until 16weeks when it just stopped.

During that time the thought of termination crossed my mind more than once, I have a 5yo DS and he pretty much missed out on his summer because I spent it lying on the lounge and throwing up.

I hope it eases up for you soon.

Oh i really feel for you i have had HE in all 3 of my pregnancies but worst of all the 1st time when i was sick every 2 mins 24 hours a day NO SLEEP after 2 days of that my hubby phoned gp who came to my house and was so alarmed he rushed me to hospital. They told me i was in a bad way and would have to treat me and i could loose my baby and it makes me ill to think but i actually thought good im glad i hope i do loose my baby.Thankfully they managed to stabilise me and my dd was born healthy after 3 months of drugs and drips to control it. You will get there but i would seek treatment asap good luck.

nicky sending you much love and sympathy. I had hg with dd1 and was hospitalised twice. Thankfully both of the GPs that I saw in our surgery were very clued up and sympathetic.

I had "normal" severe ms with dd2.

Anyway, just reading through some of these makes me cry...it was over 6 years ago but it was one of the most traumatic things I have been through.

I hope you find a doctor very quickly who understands and gives you the support you need.

I always wanted 4 dcs but we have stopped at two as I cannot go through it all again.

dd1 was born at 41+4 weeks. She was almost 10lb. It gave us a good giggle as I was at my slimmest ever when 6 months pregnant and had obv been worried about the impact on the baby.

Hi nicky - sorry to hear you are feeling so awful. You have my every sympathy, it sounds like you are going through hell.

I too think you need to get a second opinion. I would demand to see the consultant now - maybe get DH or family to make the phone call.

It's truly awful that you are not getting the support you need. Having bad 'normal' morning sickness myself at the moment - I have every sympathy for what you are going through. (although can't imagine how awful it must be)
Be very very kind to yourself, from other posters it sounds like a lot of people have felt as desperate as you do (I'm sure I would!) but please try and find a medical carer who can give you the support you deserve - don't let one GP make you feel like you are backed in to a corner.

Thanks for the support.

Just had the mw round. She was pretty helpful actually. Not my usual mw, but better tbh. I felt taken seriously, which has done quite a lot for me psychologically. SHe is going to try to arrange for me to see consultant next week. Says don't bother going back to the GP as she doesn't know enough. It was nice to feel a medically person actually got how bad this is.

Hope I see the consultant very soon. Not managed to get dressed yet today. I can't have a shower unaided. SO frustrating.

Awww nicky I have been there too! While preg with ds I couldn't even keep water down. I've always said since then that labour wouldn't put me off having another child, but having to go through sodding pregnancy again would. I'm probably not the best person to comment though, as mine lasted nearly to the end, along with spd, killer heartburn, insomnia...
Honestly, you have my sympathy.

Not sure if you have seen this thread - it might help a little too.

Hope it you start to feel better soon.

Struggling again today on and off.
I just feel completely panicked.
Last night I had a dream where I actually left the house and was feeling not too baad and could function. I was crying when I woke up because I cannot imagine functioning like a normal pregnant person.

The difference between this and morning sickness like I had with ds is like the difference between a cold and pnuemonia.

Had serious chat with dh abour termination. He says that he doesn't think I would do it, so no point torturing ourselves discussing it. Atm I do not want this child. If it was born tomorrow then someone else would have to look after it, I hate it so much.

I totally know that feeling NTT - a few weeks ago I just lay on the bed and cried that I wish this baby would just die!!!!!!!

I have got a bit less sick as time progressed but still struggling and I wouldn't say I love the baby at all yet but I no longer hate it.

I had this (not sure if quite as bad as I have conveniently forgotten...) with DD and I remember when I was at a work conference wondering if I could just sneak off and have a termination and go home and tell DH I'd miscarried. Yet DD is the light of my life and by the time I reached about 20 weeks I was bonding with her. I keep trying to convince myself I will feel that way eventually this time.

I am having a bad day today - despite my cocktail of drugs (I know how lucky I am to have such a good GP that I have the drugs because otherwise I'd be a lot worse).

Thinking about you

I do know how goddamn awful HG is, I was sick constantly until 18 weeks. Like you say I couldnt function AT ALL for those weeks - I was extremely nauseous and sick so many times a day I lost count. I remember being sick, constantly, for 3 hours because I had dared to eat a rich tea biscuit. That doesnt even sound possible but it is true. I oculd only have a drip (and I mean that literally) of water every 15 minutes, nothing too cold, nothing too hot. I remember it all too well.

Just telling you this so you know youre not alone and you know that I was like this and ds is currently asleep upstairs and is the light of my life. Oh and I am currently ttc no 2 so must be worth it.

this will pass .

Hang in there, nicky. You too will be here one day, posting about your experiences and encouraging another woman going through this. Try not to think of the baby at all, you are ill. Once you get the proper care, you will be able to think about your baby with excitement. Promise.

Nicky I haven't read the whole thread but suffered awful sickness too, It wasn't till I was pregnant for the 4th time (with twins)
I heard about taking high doses of vit b6 50mg a day.
My forth pregnancy was so much better, I still had the sick feeling but carried on working and was only sick about once a day a vast improvement on other pregnancies.
I bought mine of ebay for a few quid. worth a go. It took a few days for it to start working with me.

God I'm so glad that you have written this thread. I don't have HG, but just severe ms, and yes, I hate this baby so far. When I had bleeds I was NOT bothered in the least if I had lost it...which sounds dreadful but the sickness and the constant nauseuous feeling is the worst I have experienced. It stops me doing anything. You are NOT alone....

Thanks everyone.

I know I keep saying it, but it does really help to come on here and read your replies. I am so God damned lonely stuck on the sofa/in bed for nearly 5 weeks now.

I am desperately waiting for the mw to get bsck in touch with me today re the consultant. Getting more and more desperate and angry the more time goes by. I don't know what more I can do to tell them how desperate I am.

Dear Nicky. I am just coming out of Hyperemisis. Was off work for 12 weeks and unable to sit upright, read or get out of bed for about 6. I really wondered how I was going to get through and it didn't help when hospitalised and everyone kept saying "it will get better"
BUT I am now 18 + 4 and although still taking medication (which never stopped me feeling sick but did ease the symptoms, though I only realised this when I stopped taking them and felt even worse which I could hardly believe!) I am functioning, back at work and seeing light at the end of the tunnel.
So, best of luck, big hugs, HUGE amount of sympathy but hang in there.

thak you so much. I am in hospital now on various drugs trng to make this barable. excuse typing but usg patientline mimi keyboard! hope to feel better soon but already relievedto be taken seriously by medics. thanks forall the support.

Good grief - I've just come across your thread Nicky and I'm horrified by what you've had to endure so far.

I'm pleased to hear that you're in hospital for now and hope that between everybody, you can come up with a combination of things to ease your symptoms so that you can start to enjoy your pregnancy.

xx

Nicky I am right there with you. I started vomiting on the train to work at 6 weeks and have been through cycles of horrendous sickness, going in to hospital to get IV drugs and fluids, feeling a bit better then back to the horrendous sickness since. I'm 12 weeks on Sunday and desperate to feel human again. I'm hoping that the fact that I can look at a screen without vomiting is a good sign. I think the worse thing is that dehydration seriously messes with your mind - I completely understand the whole mirage in the desert thing now. I have been through days when I could only really properly think about something for a couple of minutes before slipping back in to a horrible state of just existing. I couldn't even think clearly enough to properly think about having a termination but I remember wishing I could have a miscarriage (I had one earlier this year and I have wanted this baby for so long) even though I know there's no way I would.

Ondansetron/ Zofran really is the best drug. Having it IV was the only thing that has really helped each time I got really bad.

My other piece of advice is to not be a hero and struggle on - if you can't keep anything down for 24 hours just go to A&E. I waited for ages - sucking ice and clinging on to sanity before going to hospital and the lovely doctor told me off - staying hydrated is important and if you can't do it by yourself it's so worth getting it IV.

I really hope you feel better after the hospital and that the sickness stays under control.

x

Well, I got home last night.
Tbh, I would have prefered a day or two more in to feel confident that the drugs are working, but now I am home and settled and the drugs ARE helping so I am very pleased. So damn weak from lack of food and movement for nearly 6 weeks, but no longer sick thank GOd!

I don't want to bang on about it, but thank you all so much for your support. It has been invaluable. I am not out the woods yet, but can sit upright and watch TV abd talk, so a vast improvement!

...and yes, it is Zofran I am on. Much better than the other drugs.