Freaking out about my back.

[pie]

Ok, I've had really bad backache since the 10th week of my pregnancy, I'm now 19 weeks. Intially I was told that this would get better as my retroverted uterus came forward. Then I was told that it was being caused by fluid from a burst ovarian cyst (I was admitted to hospital for this as the pain was so bad), now I've been told its just one of those things.

I CANNOT walk or stand. I can't sit for more than a few minutes at a time. I cannot turn over. My legs are heavy and numb and I spend most of the day crying over the pain. I have had to cancel appointments with Doctors as I can't get to them.
Two weeks ago I saw my GP and she said she would refer me to the Obstetric Physiotherapists at the hospital I'm booked into. I haven't had an appointment through.

Over this weekend it has got worse. My DH has just told me that there are now blue marks all over my lower back, he says he can't tell if their veins or bruises.

I can't afford an osteopath, but I can't seem to get anyone to realise how much pain I'm in.

How do I get my GP to take this seriously? Should I be worried about the marks all over my back?

Please can someone reassure me that if this is all pregnancy related the pain will stop once the baby is born?

pupuce, all I know is what that leaflet says. I can see absolutely no reason why I shouldn't labour in water even if I don't deliver in it. Although if the nasty twinges I've been having (if they are advance contractions - seem to tweak near my fallopian tubes!) are indeed what it's going to be like, I'm REALLY not looking forward to it...

motherinferior - I agree with pupuce. There is no reason why you should not use the birthing pool. Depends really on your ability to get in and out rather than being in the water itself. The water is good because it allows you to move more freely. As a midwife I have looked after women in the pool with SPD. HTH.

Thanks for gettting back to me pupuce, and thanks for offereing to be my taxi Sambo

I'm really getting stressed about the whole cost thing, so I am defintely going to try to see someone on the NHS. I hope you don't feel that I have wasted your time pupuce. If it doesn't work out, or I can't get the referral I will take you up on the name of your guy. I should know in a couple of weeks. I feel really bad about turning down the generous offers of help and information, I just want to explore all the channels before commiting my self to another expenditure. Does that make sense?? I hope I haven't offended anyone.

Physio has just got off the phone, I decided to ring even if it means ending up in a wheel chair...I have to see her tomorrow. God damn it I was so looking forward to this pregnancy.

The whole thing is turning my DH very strange. Yesterday I said to him that next week I wanted to go to a H&M to buy DD some summer clothes as all her dresses from last year come half way up her thigh. I asked if he would come with me to help...he tells me I'm not ALLOWED out of the house. He says I'm only ALLOWED out for my medical appointments or to visit my mum, he actually said I have to accept that I'm a total invalid. Of course I scream and cursed, but his whole attitude is really getting me down. I have never been in the best of health but that never stopped him letting me do the housework. For f**k sake my MS has been in remission for 6 years and now I can't go to the shop?

I thought that maybe he was feeling guilt as since this pain started 10 weeks ago he really has taken it that seriously, but now there's a diagnosis he's gone into overdrive. Or maybe I'm just making excuses. I don't know

Don't know your dh of course, but perhaps it's because he is really concerned about you and worried that you're overdoing it - and that's his way of showing it. 'Allowed' is a pretty strong word but is pretty male, really. Doesn't help any feelings of being hemmed in though. Did he offer to go to Hennes for you?

What about going to H&M weith your mum?

Pie - can I suggest something? My "guy" has a 4 weeks waiting list... why don't you make an appointment and cancel it if need be ???? At least you will have something in your diary if the NHS fails you.... otherwise you will have to wait for ANOTHER 4 weeks.

Let me know

Don't wory about wasting anyone's time... I am sure this thread wil be handy to someone else too.

Pie- my own osteopath (whom I trust and feel is excellent in obstetrics) just told me that he doesn't think he could help you (he would not want to try) as he thinks your problems are too accute..... one more vote for talking to this Clapham "expert" - he may also tell you that he would not want to touch you! At least you could know if this a dead end!
Up to you

Wouldn't touch me?? Now I feel like I have the osteopath lurgies

If you want to send an email via mumsnet that would be very appreciated, I think that your idea about booking (assuming he even thinks I can be treated) and then cancelling if anything else comes up is very sensible!

I saw the physio, basically there's not point putting me in a wheelchair as sitting hurts as much as standing...so will just have to lie in bed all day. Which is ultra crap! We have one bedroom, it is overcrowded and TV less. There are also stairs in my flat and horrid curving ones from the first floor (which my flat is on) to the street. I'm with a housing trust, so now I'm gonna have to fight to get somewhere at street level without internal stairs. I can't get any aids within the flat as it is that small that nothing actually fits through the door or window.

I reckon at this rate I'm going to end up with a Vit D definiency too.

Oh well...can't get any worse, can it?

It is faster if you e-mail me via my website as Tech is not working nights

Just sent you a mail

You might end up with a bigger place to live - is that any small consolation? Can you rent a TV for a while... you've got to have something to entertain you!

Well I've been on the waiting list for a 2 bedroom for 4 years and am pretty high on the list, but I would like to be able to decorate and get things how I like them, especially if we end up moving before the baby is born. But yes it would be nice to finally move. Plus I currently have the neighbours from hell.

Anyway I can have a good moan at the antenatal psychiatrist tomorrow about everything.