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Do men always (think they) want sons?

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neutralnickname · 12/10/2009 15:32

Is it because they can imagine bonding with their mini-me's better than with a daughter?

Anyone had a DP/H actually disappointed/less interested when presented with a DD(and apologies for bringing it up if so ?

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katnkittens · 13/10/2009 00:11

Definitely not in my case!! I already had a DS and a DD when my and DH met and then we had a dd 6 years ago who he completely adores!

Now I am pregnant again I keep asking him if he wants a DS and he genuinely isn't bothered, he loves dd so much that I think he'd actually rather have another girl.

I sometimes think that men feel more pressure to be perfect with sons and act as a role model whereas with daughters all they have to do is smother them with love and treat them like princesses and they will be loved forever!

Morosky · 13/10/2009 00:14

No, dp and I are about to start trying for a baby and he genuinely does not mind, we already have a dd.

TheLadyEvenstar · 13/10/2009 00:27

Dp and I are ttc, we have 2 ds;s and while i want another ds he would love a girl...ewwwwwwwww lol pink n frilly no no no no!!!

mamaloco · 13/10/2009 07:20

Lola same with our DD. She also seems to wrap her dad around her little finger and can put on full charm and cutteness which seem v. difficult for DH to resist. It does help that altough being a pink princess most of the time she is a tomboy in the park. DC2 is on its way and DH is delighted it is a DD2. (I wonder how I will cope with 2 of those )

ErnestTheBavarian · 13/10/2009 07:41

dh never expressed a preference. Always steadfastly insisted wasn't bothered. We had 3 ds and he was happy each time. Then we had a dd and it was a bit of a shock tbh. He dotes on her. I think closer with her as a baby than the boys. Didn't believe it i^but the whole daddy's girl thing seems to be true. Still early doors though. We'll see when she's 3/4. She is super cute though

FABIsInTraining · 13/10/2009 07:43

My DH was over the moon to have a daughter. We already had a son and he didn't mind what the first baby was but having only had a brother he is chuffed to have a girl in the family. He is very protective of her.

Abubu · 13/10/2009 16:56

I have 2 year old girl DTS who DH adores. I am pregnant again (12 week scan coming up on Thursday - eek) and DH has never made a secret that he will love another DD to bits but will be even more pleased to have a DS.

He said that he thinks that all men secretely want a son.

Trying4Baby1 · 13/10/2009 20:36

DH says he isn't bothered what sex the baby is but is convinced I'm having a boy. He had a small girl walk up to him in a shop and tell him he had a 'wee boy' waiting for him at home just after we got a BFP. We have no DC at the mo until this one comes. Whole thing's a bit weird and if it turns out to be a boy it'll be freaky.

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neutralnickname · 14/10/2009 21:18

Well...thanks everyone! Pretty much confirmed that on the whole I was right not to take the repeated "jokes" about wanting a boy too seriously. I had begun to get a bit pissed off worried about what reaction would be if was a girl!

Suspect the "jokes" are him worrying that with a DD we will gang up on him and the twin towers of Logic and Rationality will crumble, heh heh. Not as though I am particularly pinky-girly or anything anyway.

To be fair I thought I wanted a boy til I invented found the perfect girl's name and now hoping for a DD....

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MandaHugNKill · 14/10/2009 22:20

My exH told me (when I was pregnant with dc1) that if it was a girl, it would be the worst day of his life. He wasn't even joking

Of course, dc1 was a dd! And, to be 'fair' to him(not that the insensitive git deserves that) he was smitten with her and she became very much a daddy's girl. Infact, when I went back to work when she was 13months, he stayed home to be her primary carer.

Wen pregnant with dc2 he basically ignored me the whole pregnancy as it was an oops and although he idn't actually verbalise as much (however much I tried to talk to him) it seemed obvious he was very angry/didn't want another child... dc2 was a ds. And exDH didn't really bond with him in any meaningful way until a few years ago when he was about 8.

My experience is probably skewed by a weird exDH, but he was deadset against a daughter an adored her; wanted a son and ignored him.

Hulababy · 14/10/2009 22:23

DH never shown any preference when I was pregnant. He was convinced baby was a girl and was more than happy - she was a girl too. And he idolises his little girl He even joins in with the pink stuff too - seems to have increasing numbers f pink ties and shirts

We appear to be unable to have a second child and again - DH has no desite to have had a sn or feel he is missing out on a son. He is obviously disappointed we haven't been able to have the second child, but he truely never expressed any desire for us to have a boy rather than a girl.

Yikess · 16/10/2009 12:04

DH said he wanted a son - then when we got pregnant (through IVF)and thought this might be our only child and we were about to have our 20 wk scan and find out the sex - he admitted that if we only have one he wants a girl. I asked him why? ... his response, she will always be close to us and come home and I cant wait to walk her down an aisle and do a wedding speech!! a huge surprise - guess what?? we are having a baby girl and we are so happy. Next one can be a boy.

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