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What did you do differently to help you get pregnant?

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iggypiggy · 06/10/2009 10:52

I would like you to humour a grumpy cow please

Am wondering what people did differently when they decided to start trying to get pregnant - and if they think it made a difference!

eg. Taking folic acid, giving up alchol, taking other supplements, giving up caffeine - or did you just carry on as normal?

I am bored of ttc and failing (is now 6 months since my MC) - so am looking for tips from people who have actually managed it.

thank you v. mcuh in advance

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iggypiggy · 06/10/2009 14:09

blushes I know you are right... I also do try to stay away from MN from time to time! I'll have to just keep having sex and try to chill I guess... am going to try drinking less thos...

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wasabipeanut · 06/10/2009 14:51

Hi Iggy

I know you have dismissed this in case it fuels the obsession (and I totally get why you might think that) but temping was what did it for me. I had one cycle when I temped just to make sense of my cycle and then got pg on the next one. It didn't fuel my obsession - it sort of calmed me down as seeing the plotline on teh chart made me realise what was going on with my body, relax and work with it. From a scientific standpoint I found it really interesting.

I hope that whatever you do you get the result that you want soon x

MoreCrackThanHarlem · 06/10/2009 14:54

Shoulder stand with legs resting on wall after sex

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iggypiggy · 06/10/2009 15:00

wasabi hope you ok! I would like to temp but partly I don't want to freak DH out - and put any more pressure on, and I can't really take my temp in bed without him noticing! But I guess we may have to talk about it!

morecrack sexy

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thedollshouse · 06/10/2009 15:04

The first time I didn't do anything differently and got pregnant on second attempt.

The second time I cut down on caffiene and alcohol and got pregnant on 15th attempt.

I think it is down to luck, although both our babies were conceived on holiday so I think stress must play a negative part.

jardins · 06/10/2009 15:32

Dear iggypiggy I think a lot of us understand what you may be feeling. After my mc in March I really got the emotional pain out of my system and then to straighten out the inbalance the mc had caused physically. I recall having the most horrendous headaches and going to see my osteopath who explained to me why the mc was playing havoc on my neck and head. She told me that I seemed to have recovered emotionally but needed to work on my body and once that had happened my body would naturally be ready to conceive again. I know that might sound daft but it really seems to have worked for me. One thing I recall clearly, both before I conceived (prior to my mc) and this time round too was that I started going on longish brisk walks alone. I'm not Miss Sporty but those walks seemed to kick my body into gear.

I hope this doesn't sound stupid to you: it just seemed to work for me.

Best of luck and you are not alone!

ConFuschias · 06/10/2009 15:35

for DD2 - took a risk in having unprotected sex with DH, just the once

and voila! two pink lines a fortnight later

but I'm soooooo pleased we did

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iggypiggy · 06/10/2009 15:42

dolls am def inclince to think stress is important - so stressing this month is probably not helping me!

jardins I didn't think of telling the osteopath - I did have to go and see her a couple of months after the MC.. Makes sense tho... Am going to do something about doing more exercise - I already do a fair bit, but more would be good cos I think I am just used to the stuff I do... thank you - is v. good advice and much appreciated.

confuschia very jealous

thanks all for sharing - to be honest I know I need to chill... but is hard to do isn't it!

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thedollshouse · 06/10/2009 15:59

Iggy, this time round I had resigned myself to it not happening as I was having ovulation issues anyway. A few months before we conceived I had stopped symptom spotting and was just waiting for the follow up appointment with the fertility consultant so we could get clomid and we managed to succeed on our own!

I know it is easy to say but if I were you I would try to have an attitude of if it happens it happens and see if that helps. From talking to friends it would appear that most people conceive when they least expect it.

ConFuschias · 06/10/2009 16:51

iggy - we did have two years of trying before that, during which I spent a fortune on acupuncture etc, and I was on the list for fertility treatment.

So maybe you should do what I did - get a new job, stop trying to get pregnant, because it would be absolutely not on to be the first woman recruited in at your level, and fall pregnant within 6 months.

Um, then have unprotected sex - "cos there is no chance of us getting pregnant since 2 years of trying didn't work"........

...cue shamefaced discussion shortly afterwards with CEO

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iggypiggy · 06/10/2009 16:57

confuschias hmm... am considering the new job thing... I was offered an interview the other day for a senior position, but have been havering about it. As really don't want to put ttc on hold if get new job. I have 3 month notice period in current job, so is a long time to put on hold!

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napa · 06/10/2009 17:56

i got rid of all DD's baby clothes!!!

Mama2b5 · 06/10/2009 18:37

Not stressing and just relaxing helps and totally put getting pregnant out of your mind! had an ep 1n 2006 and am now pregnant( 23 weeks) after obsessing for 18 months! relax and enjoy nature will do the rest!

(so much easier said then done!)

PoppyIsApain · 06/10/2009 18:41

had an argument and then amazing make up sex, it worked though

Divvy · 06/10/2009 18:42

My dh took the week off work!

fififolle · 06/10/2009 18:57

I gave up drinking alcohol, reduced my caffeine intake and reduced my sugar intake - apparently sugar has an adverse effect on cervical mucous (?)
I also took a folic acid and omega 3 supplement.
DH's alcohol consumption also reduced and he'd always change in to loose fitting PJ bottoms after work Apparently it's best for your OH to avoid hot baths and working with a laptop on their lap.
Finalyy, we waited to see what would happen over the next 6 months, having lots of sex also late in cycle. We started trying in July amd I'm due in April.
Zeta West's book is very good too.
Wishing you all the very best of luck and lots of fun trying.

Divvy · 06/10/2009 19:36

bytheway, I find with internet cheapies they give a better line with 2nd and later wee of the day

holytoast · 06/10/2009 21:53

ran around like a blue arsed fly, drank like a fish, totally wore myself out organising a massive party and getting ready for a big trip to vietnam, totally forgot to have sex at any point during ovuluation, and said to ourselves that it would be the worst possible time to get pregnant due to aforementioned trip to vietnam...

in fact did the opposite of everything I did forthe previous 12 months ttc.

On first day of said trip - wheres my period?!?1

now 12 weeks, and realise that we probably should have relaxed a while ago..easier said than done though....

bubblesincambridge · 07/10/2009 13:58

Started using a fertility monitor - this worked the first month I tried it. Its about £75 plus extra for the pee sticks which you have to wee on for the first ten days. Worth every penny in my opinion.

I also started taking a mum to be multi-vitamin from Boots a couple of months before.

Fajitas · 07/10/2009 15:04

I've just remembered. The month I conceived I:
a) resolved to buy a two seater car (luckily I never got around to this); and
b) booked a ski holiday for December (which I shall not now be going on ...)

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iggypiggy · 07/10/2009 15:07

bubble I've got one, but not really tried it yet... could try that next...

holy maybe I will try to convince self that I don't want to be PG until new year and just forget about it for a couple of months... but not sure I'll be able to!

fajitas sod's law appears to work then!

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lal123 · 07/10/2009 15:43

only thing we did different was having sex.

redsofas · 07/10/2009 15:51

dont know if i should say?

Fajitas · 07/10/2009 15:57

Obviously now, you HAVE to. Go on.....

ClaireDeLoon · 07/10/2009 16:08

spill redsofas