Thanks whensmydayoff, but I was re reading my post thinking, shit, I always ramble and have typos and never notice them. Only just noticed blatant typo in the thread title, blame it on the hormones...
I am not as far on as you, only 10 weeks but the intrigue all started when I went to see my Gynocologist(sp?) this week - I live in Greece and different system here, we get a scan with every check up which is about every 4-6 weeks. Anyway, I asked him if the theory of timing your conception for a boy or girl was true and he said yes, it generally was, and when I told him we only had one shot at it on day of ov he said yes more likely to be a boy. BUT, he also told me the heartbeat theory, that girls generally have a faster heartbeat than boys, and he told me my baby had quite a fast heartbeat. So it was that that got me thinking. I think maybe I was better off believing it had to be a boy because now I'm getting my hopes up and I don't want to be disappointed, it's so confusing . I know people often come on MN after posts like these and say we shouldn't be worrying about it, you're lucky to have a baby, don't have negative thoughts about it etc, and I know all those things but I can't help it!
We were going to have this one as a surprise because we knew at 20 weeks DS was going to be a boy (I knew I'd never make it through all those scans without asking, and baby clothes here are awful and I was buying stuff in advance from UK! But yesterday I spoke to a friend who said, if you have a preference, just find out so you can get used to the idea. I think she might be right. I also spoke to another friend who has 2 DS's, who totally undestands my desire but she also said a few things on the plus side of having 2 boys:
-Remember it will still be as totally unique and different from your first, no matter what gender it turns out to be.
-DS1 would probably love to have a little brother.
-They can share a bedroom for longer.
-Think of all the money you'll save not having to buy different clothes, plus it's cute to get to use all those well loved clothes again, plus you don't have to buy anything pink (personally this is one of my reasons for wanting a DD, I want to have a non pink wearing one!)
-Who's to say your daughter will be any closer to you as she grows up than a son. My DS is totally affectionate, and I dread the thought of a strong willed mini-me arguing with me all the time!
I think these are all good points to keep in mind, but I totally know what you mean, and I still want that girl!
I haven't had any complications in the past, but I loathe being pregnant, and this time the sickness is lasting much longer so I keep thinking, I just couldn't go through this again. I'm really intrigued to find out what we both have! What will your age gap be? For me DS1 will be 2yrs3mo when the mystery person arrives. Now, as this was such a long post, I am going to properly check it for typos!
(2 mins later, hmmmm good job I did!)