bbc3 underage and pregnant

[baby1onway]

does any1 watch this underage n pregnant on bbc 3??i was worryin bout how i'l cope being just 23, but this programme is unreal!it always seems 2 b the gran that does everything!and the dad doesnt seem 2 do much either!

Oh totally, i totally agree. I see 40 year olds in meltdown , ditto teenagers.

In no way am i suggesting teenage mothers are useless - i was one twice.

Lets not talk about the meltdown, please!!! Know its going to happen but hush puts fingers in ears

My ds1(7) is on the austistic spectrum, and i am having huge meltdown today . I still have DH at work, and ds2 (4) and dd (17 months) and my 27 weeek bump to sort.

I'm just having a total freak out for various reasons. Thankfully doesn't seem to be bothering him, he's wiggling around quite happily. Though am getting rather p*ssed with the support belt and crutches now. Don't envy you handling three of them at 27 weeks!!! You're a brave woman

Scorps - my gosh you are great and dont let anyone tell you any different! i have 4 children 2 mine and 2 adopted and now pregnant, with a wonderful DH but still its hard and we have a great network of help i lost mum in march so i guess im just getting on because i HAD to!
with the program my only thing is it has no moral guidance which is the thing i cant get over i suppose as i said i have a 15 year old and we r discussing colleges right now i cant imagine discussing what buggy she wants and buying clothes for her child!!!!
the thing is this is still going to happen and so you just get on with it! mistakes happen and i suppose the option of getting rid( morning after pill at the local chemist) was so not an option so choosing to have a baby is hard but we women cope!
alot of younger girls dont have the supoort the childs father and that must be really hard! i cant imagine going through this alone without my DH but alot of women young and old do! A child is a true gift and blessing regarding of age, sometimes with everything else going on, it sometimes hard to see that!

I'm 21 and pregnant with my first. I think I'm young! But I've been to uni, got a degree and married (he's 25). I think it's dependant on your individual circumstances but under 18 is just crazy, especially as you can't have even finished your education.

"Crazy"??

So what are you suggesting, that every "accident" that occurs should be "got rid of" or something?? To be frank, you can go back into education at any time - if you have the drive to do it, you will, your age has no factor in that.

Yes, thankyou for your concern, i too have a degree, and am married, and oh yes, was pregnant at 16. I had two children by 19.

You can do anything you want, if you want it enough.

My concern is financially. On the BBC programme all the teenage girls seem to have everything paid by their own parents. Obviously every case is different, but no 15/16 year old is on a good enough income to run a house, pay a mortgage and raise a child. Instead us taxpayers pay! Thats the part of the programme that bothers me, not the emotional competence.

this is a very hard subject and there is no right or wrong! the youngest girl to have a baby was 13 and she never knew the father of her baby which was splattered in the newspapers! i really felt for her it was really bad the way she was portrayed! as before myself and my DH will encourage our DD to finish school and head to uni whilst there she will be exposed to all sorts i pray that the talks we have have with her has encouraged her to be prepared and be careful, i would love her to be married before she has children.(our personal and moral choice!)
also sometimes after having a child or children its possible but sometimes very hard to juggle without a good support to go and study it all depends on the person, but this will then cost unless paid for by work.
putting off education to raise your child is important but at what cost!

And not every adult is on that kind of income either. Are you next going to critise those that have children and live in supported housing? You sound just like a bitch I met on the bus. I'm not working because I'm disabled - do you want to attack that point too??

As for being educated correctly - I'm, according to everything, above avarage intellegance. I attended sex education lessons. But hey - I'm 33 weeks gone. I was on a full scholorship to one of the best schools in the world. Does that make me uneducated?

Or just like every other indivdual that has slipped up, and fallen pregnant without meaning to?

I've watched it.

I had only just turned 20 when I had dd, no input from her dad and a very supportive family. But I've always done everything for my dd myself, and asked for a little help on occassion when I felt I needed it from family.

As a young parent, the programme makes me cringe.

I can look back and say with certainty that I was too young to have my dd. I was utterly clueless (like many new parents) and I know I wasn't ready for it now. But at the time I was highly defensive. However, this never stopped me from being a good mother to dd, and I know that I am a damn good mum still.

I'm now 22, dd's 2.4 years and we're doing great. But it isn't until nearly 2 and a half years on that I know having dd at 20 was too young... certainly for me anyway.

People always say to me 'but hasn't it messed things up, having her at such a young age?' My answer? It took for me to have dd to sort myself the hell out. Says I, mother at 20, just about to enter year 3 of my degree. And damn proud of both her and myself.

I am so grateful when watching that programme that my family don't interfere or try to control everything, like quite a few of the mums seem to.

I wish them all the best, but as a young mum myself...