Eeek, DS is 10mths old and I might be pregnant

[ohdeargod]

I have a DD of 3.7 and DS is only 10mths old, did a test with a VERY faint line (must be only 3/4 weeks) due to having some mild symptoms. Sh*t we have had a turbulent year with a relocation and various other challenges, I'm not sure we are ready for this

Ohdeargod, I may well be in the same (well, similar) boat. DS is 6 months and I am due on today. But last week I had some cramps and light bleeding (implantation??) and I'm having cramps now before period has appeared which has only happened to me once before- when I got pg last time. I am putting off going to shop for a test as I'm a bit scared of the result. I don't have any words of wisdom, just know that you're not alone.

I hope you're ok - if you are pg I'm sure once you've got your head round the idea it'll be ok. Hopefully someone will come along with something more useful to say.

Don't panic. Nobody is ever ready for a surprise baby. Ever.

You need to make sure you are pg, before you start to make decisions and panic. Can you get in to see doc?

My first 2 were 15 months apart, and I managed.

Good luck, hope it turns out how you want.

It took me ages to conceive my children - I have PCOS so I am somewhat disbelieving. I think I need to get one of those digital tests that spell its out rather than rely on my cheapo Ebay ones (although they have always been accurate in the past).

God god god, we wanted a 3rd but not now.

You're definitely not alone - DD is only 5 months old and I'm now 3 days late (and I'm never late) and displaying all the symptoms. I know we said we didn't want a big gap between them but we've only had sex once since she was born so we haven't exactly been trying very hard!!!

i have a 5 year old, 17 month old and i am nearly 37 pregnant, so prety much the same, ds2 was 10 months when i got caught. t first we wereabsolutely terrified but now cant wait for dc3to make an apperance. i dot think there is ever at "right time " to choose to have a child. there will always e obstacles in the way. ta a test so u know one way or the other and then go from there. good luck xxxxxxxxxx

Ohdeargod,

I'm in the same boat, my dd turned one on tuesday and I'm 10 weeks pg. I am still not actually over the shock and I found out when I was 4 weeks, but the more people we tell the more positive reactions we get and it is making it seem that it will be a bit easier.

There is only 18 months between my brother and I then 18 months between my sister and I (followed by another sister and another brother) and I just think of how close we all were and that makes it easier for me!

Also when I think about it when I was at school, many moons ago, there were loads of people in my year who had siblings in the year above and the year below so it was obviously common then.

I know I've probably not made things seem any better but as people keep saying to me, there are worse things than a baby!

We had 15 months between our first two - it's a fantastic gap, and has worked really well. I'm pg with a totally surprise number 4 and will have 23 months between 3 and 4 adn that's freaking me out, even though I've done it before and know that we'll manage (even if I fall asleep the second they are all in bed )

As someone said to me on my surprise pg thread, nature throws what you can cope with at you (apologies - appalling sentence structure), so you will be fine.

First things first you need a definate answer so go buy another test today so you know for sure.

Then don't panic! Easier said than done I know. I have ds7, ds6, dd just turned 2, ds 11 months and I am 29weeks with a VERY unexpected number 5. So there will only be 2.5yrs between the youngest 3

I have only just got used to the idea and know that one way or another this baby is coming so she will fit in, somewhere, somehow!

I know how shocked you must be feeling but it's not a disaster. Just think of the lovely relationship your 3 dc's will have with being so close.

I hope you're ok (stupid question I know, sorry) x x x

Hey Ohdeargod, firstly, a surprise baby isn't called that for nothing... and as we al know some surprises take some time to get used to!

I too have pcos and when I fell pg with my ds (a 'surprise' also ) I was pretty down - DD was 2.5yrs, mind, but we were only just getting on an even keel with our finances and stuff and, well, our relationship wasn't in the best shape (he basically ignored me the whole pregnancy). THen my Nan died (I was V close to her) and regular bleeding (hello, guilt, for kinda wishing the I'd never fallen pregnant) involving hospital stays meant it al seemed like it couldn't have come at a worse time...

But I'd shake myself up with thoughts such as 'So many women (especially those with PCOS) struggle to fall pg - I have to view an oopsie as a blessing...'

And 'Everything happens for a reason, it may not seem obvious now but I will look back and know one day'

And other such 'platitudes'...

It's human nature, a mothers instinct even more, to just...cope. You will cope. But if you really come to the conclusion that you don't think you could then remember there are support groups/counselling that will help you with that decision.

Lots of love to you.