Pregnant again after miscarriage and worried already - bit long - sorry

[Jacanne]

I miscarried what would have been my 3rd child earlier this year - the miscarriage was fairly awful and I bled very heavily for 7 weeks afterwards.

DH and I were going to give it one last go (I am 40 next year) but then I got a job and swine fly descended and I began to think that maybe it was best not to. After having tried for 18 months to conceive the baby we lost I suppose we thought that it would be that difficult again and were'nt particularly careful. My period failed to come and I tested on Saturday (6 days late) and got a strong positive. I wasn't ecstatic just very frightened after all that happened last time but over the last couple of days I have begun to get used to the idea and my feelings have changed to more what they should be.

Yesterday I was very irritable (like PMT) and this morning my breasts are no longer tender (my nipples were excruciatingly sore last night but nothing now). So I am beginning to think it has happened again - loss of symptoms = miscarriage. The thing is that my 2 previous miscarriages were missed ones and I didn't find out until 10 and 12 weeks - obviously I don't want to go this route again but if I went for a scan now it would be too early to see anything, wouldn't it - I should be about 3 weeks.

If you got to the end of this - thanks - haven't told anyone IRL yet (apart from DH) - my Mum will just say "It wasn't meant to be" - she doesn't get that this doesn't help.

weren't even, lol.

Please come and join us here

We're all the same. Previous MC, pregnant again. Some of us were on a thread in TTC after our MC's, and that's why we are the 'grads' now, but we all feel exactly the same as you. Don't panic alone, come and join us.

And please try to get an early scan- most doctors send you for one after a previous MC anyway. It's worth asking and explaining how you feel.

Thank you so much

I am so sorry you lost your baby and know you need reassurance now. I would contact your GP practice and ask if you can come in. You can have a chat and they can do a fast referral to the hosp so you can get a scan done asap. They can also check the result you got.

don't fret all alone - lots of us have been where you are now. Btw, I was 41 when I gave birth to my dd after I had completely given up all hope of ever having achild of my own.
Good luck and thinking of you, please post to say what happens if you feel up to it, lots will be thinking of you on here

if you are a week late you are 5 weeks pregnant - so you should be able to get an early scan in a couple of weeks.

Just to agree with the other posters. I had an early scan at 7 weeks - was referred by my GP to the Early Pregnancy Unit after 2 previous missed miscarriages. I was 41 and it was a natural conception - currently 15 weeks. Best of luck.

I will give it a week and then perhaps visit the GP - there was one there who was very kind after my mc. So pleased to about our 15 week bean extremelychocolatey

Thanks Jacanne. Maybe book an appointment now with your GP in case there's a delay with booking a scan? Fingers crossed for you.