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Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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When did you announce your big news?

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radio4 · 30/08/2009 12:04

Just wondering if people could tell me who they told they were pregnant and at what stage. Does everyone wait for the 12 week scan?

Family keep saying I'm boring as want to drive to wedding next weekend (perfect excuse for not drinking). Just want to scream at them "I'm PREGNANT OK?" but prob not the best way to announce it! Also have a hen weekend to get through before 12 week mark.

Advice and stories very welcome!

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memorylapse · 31/08/2009 11:00

I am 4 +4 with baby number 5 and with my other dcs I told family straight away..but my last 2 pregs ended in miscarriage so we are not even telling family until the 12 week scan..
tis going to be interesting as DM and DSD are having a joint birthday party in a restruant on 3rd October and potentially I may look and feel like shit by then! so will have to lie and say Ive been unwell..thank fully dont have to worry about the drinking aspect as am t total

SkaterGrrrrl · 05/02/2010 15:02

Bumping an old thread as I'm interested in this too.

I am 6 weeks and so far just DH and I know.

I'm having a scan at 8 weeks and intend to tell parents, in laws, grandmother and sisters then.

Everyone else at 12 weeks - possibly a close friend or two before then if Im in danger of being rumbled. Have already had one friend text me to say "Why are you so glowy, hmmm?"

Anyone else have a schedule in mind?

imkeepingmum · 05/02/2010 15:10

Now 20 weeks but we told family at 5 weeks, a few very close friends at 8/9 weeks ish and work around 11 weeks, the rest after the scan. Very difficult keeping the secret IME!

passionberry · 05/02/2010 16:05

I told family quite early - around 8 weeks.

I told work and everyone else after 12 week scan.

If I ever do this again, I think I would wait a bit longer to tell as there's not a lot to say about it in the early months and I got sick of people saying I didn't look pregnant! (had no morning sickness and didn't show till 20 weeks!)

LittleDonkin · 05/02/2010 16:47

I told everyone straight away!!!!

noodleysoup · 05/02/2010 17:04

I went for my dating scan yesterday (13weeks) and told everyone at work today, slightly regretting it now though as they all keep staring at my tummy looking for the bump! I told immediate family and close friends at about 9 weeks - before that I quite enjoyed that my husband and I had this amazing secret.

Bumperlicious · 05/02/2010 17:05

Yeah, I'm not good at keeping it to myself, told parents straight away. Told my boss and some other colleagues the day I found out because it was a snow day and I was at a hilly site and at risk of getting my car stuck and didn't want to walk, so had to explain why I needed to leave.

I've told loads of people actually, as long as you are ok with 'un-telling' them should anything go wrong, and to be honest I wouldn't be able to keep something like that quiet either.

The only person we are hold off telling is 2 yo DD as I wouldn't want to have to untell her. Have been dropping hints though!

MammyG · 05/02/2010 21:19

#1- told parents straight away and then not a another soul till 13 weeks.
#2 - Told parents and a few chosen ones at 6 weeks as need help. then the rest of the world later.
#3 - now! told parents at 5 weeks also told sister, 2 brothers and 2 best friends.
Dont know when will make it official. Very sick with other complaint at the mo and pregancy is excarebating it. Hate lying - feel awful. Have another scan at 10 weeks and had tought of saying something then but dont know. Its hard! Esp as am talker!

As for telling friends who have struggled. I acknowledged that I knew it was difficult for them and if at any point they werent up to seeing me or if I was talking too much about baby/pregnancy to feel free to tell me. Both were good friends. One turned out to be a rock and it really brought a whole new level of honesty to our friendship. The other spoke to me once more on the phone and never talked to me again. I found that very difficult but I guess in the end it was too hard for her.

LeeWT · 06/02/2010 10:43

No 1 - i was ten weeks at our wedding so we announced it to family and friends the day after and to work at 12 weeks

No 2 - Told noone in work, told ridiculously everyone. MMC at 7 weeks. Was hard because then had to tell work.

No 3 - Told close friends, no family and my manager in work. MMC at 8 weeks that worked quite well but my mother was hurt that I didnt tell her.

No 4 - I'm 6+4 now and have told a lot of my close friends, my mother and my manager.

There's no right or wrong way but as someone said earlier, just tell the people who are going to need to know, or will know anyway if something goes wrong. so basically nobody unneccesary. hope that helps!

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