This is a long post - and may not be especially reassuring, sorry. However, I thought I'd let you know my experience of a non-emergency ectopic pregnancy. I hope it helps a little.
I had a little spotting at 6 weeks and a positive pg test that didn't seem to get any stronger over time.
At no time did I have any pain or anything more than a little spotting.
MW sent me to the Early pregnancy unit for scans and blood tests. They were great, and I saw a lot of them as I was having blood tests and transvaginal scans every couple of days for 2 or 3 weeks.
My HCG levels weren't rising as expected and eventually they spotted a mass in my fallopian tube. At about 8 or 9 weeks I had surgery to remove the pregnancy and the tube.
It was a very difficult time. Hoping against hope, seeming to be continually at the hospital, worrying that I was going to get suddenly very ill, trying to keep things as normal as possible for DD, never knowing if a visit to the hospital would end in my being admitted for major surgery.
Afterwards I was off work for 6 weeks, as much to mourn and start dealing with the emotional fall-out as to physically recover.
I'm so sorry that you are going through such an uncertain and worrying time indiegrrl - I truly hope that things work out OK for you.
BTW - I've since had my lovely DS by IVF and am v. happy with my little family - but I still think about my lost little baby, who never stood a chance.