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Stress and pregnancy and outside factors, hormones or what?

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PavlovtheForgetfulCat · 07/08/2009 18:48

I have had a very stressful day.

Builders are in. They are creating stress. I have felt stressful ALL day. And it has been a shit of a day. BUT, this morning I did not know it was going to be shit.

However, I was still sick, vomitted my breakfast, have felt off colour all day, very very very tired, lead legs, tightness in chest (windpipe/food area), feel a bit blocked, heart been pounding, everything is an effort.

The day has got progressively worse, DH had a job interview, has not heard anything back but told he would know today, so we presume not successful, the building work has taken a turn for the worse and when I got home at 4pm I blew a gasket, absolutely properly, DH thought I really was going to lose it completely. I just sort of lost control.

I think the building issues would have been issues anyway, but not sure if I would have dealt with them better if not pregnant, possibly, possibly not.

Should I be concerned about how I am feeling, is this normal in pregnancy? I know pregnant people can be a bit more how shallwe say 'highly strung'? but today seemed inevitable from the outset, and now I have a stinking headache, and fighting sickness again, bad indegestion, and my heart is still pounding.

Is this just pregnancy hormones making me feel so stressed?

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scarlotti · 10/08/2009 21:48

Oh pav am so sorry that this has happened. Definitely agree that you should speak to the architect and get him to confirm the size of the room on the plans, ideally with the builder there too so you can sort this all out between you all.
I can understand why you're so angry and really hope this gets sorted for you. The whole point it to add to the space not just move it around.

Ninjacat · 10/08/2009 23:04

Pav I don't know if this will make you feel any better but I did once lock the builders out of my house with their tools inside until they admitted and agreed to rectify their mistake. It meant them ripping a brand new kitchen out and replacing it (again).

It was the only way I could get through to them.

Stick to your guns and don't let them try to pateonise you.

Ninjacat · 10/08/2009 23:05

or even patronise

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PavlovtheForgetfulCat · 10/08/2009 23:18

ninja - LOL god I could not be that brave! Good on you!

I spoke to the architect, they are blaming each other, so we are meeting tomorrow, or at least the architect is going to talk to builder about meeting tomorrow, and we will trash it out. I hate conflict!

I am off to bed to get some sleep if I can.

thanks for support ladies. I hope you are both well xx

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Ninjacat · 11/08/2009 11:12

Hope all went well today. I think it's a good idea to get architect and builder to talk and sort it out together, just don't let them gang up on you or try to make you take sides. It's their miss-communication not yours.

Ninjacat · 11/08/2009 11:14

Oh and locking the builders out, that's definitely my Scorpio side. I'm really, really reasonable up until a point and then I just loose it. You do have to push me pretty far though.

scarlotti · 11/08/2009 12:10

Hope meeting went well, agree wtih Ninja in that it's their problem to sort between them.

Am v impressed with you Ninja at locking the tools inside, wish I was that brave too

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PavlovtheForgetfulCat · 11/08/2009 17:59

the update its too long to post again, just scroll to the top ish of the page for my lastest!

The architect, it appears, was right and the builder was wrong. The builder admits it was done wrong but blames the architect for not making it clear how he wanted it done! The architect is the agent, and he was happy to play that role.

For now, all is calmer in the pavlov household, and DH has gone up in my esteem for handling it well .

And they started taking the tools and I thought of you ninja!!! So when they left, we locked the door with the lock and key they don't have copies of!!!! Not as bold as you, but it locked in their tools so they could not do a runner with all of it!

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scarlotti · 11/08/2009 21:45

Great result and 'go Mr Pavlov'!!

Ninjacat · 12/08/2009 00:10

Go team Pavlov

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PavlovtheForgetfulCat · 12/08/2009 17:07

I like that 'team pavlov' . I feel terrible now though, tired, very very very very tired, stinking headache, pounding heart. I need a holiday!

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scarlotti · 12/08/2009 20:19

I think a nice relaxing bath and an early night is in order. Don't underestimate how exhausted the stress of all this will make you feel as you're pg - remember to take care of yourself

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PavlovtheForgetfulCat · 12/08/2009 20:33

yes, that would be nice. But alas it will not happen

DH is drinking beer in the front room with a dutch friend, watching footie, he has just turned into male ugg ugg man, and is now acting all bravado like, so obviously he cannot be seen to put DD to bed.

DD is in our bedroom, and she will not settle. So, if i go to have a bath, she will get up, and i am in bed and is not letting me relax. She says she cannot sleep. Shame, as I could have easily gone to sleep hours ago!

I think i might have to go into the kitchen for some space. And that is a mess after Dh trashed it cooking dinner too!

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scarlotti · 13/08/2009 09:45

So it's not just my DH that has a labotomy when the football appears then?! Mine is Scottish so it was a different game, but just as much cursing etc with a can of Kronenburg in hand.
And we'll be outnumbered 3 boys to 2 girls when this one arrives

Hope you feel a little better today. It's so difficult when you have to share a room with them as they see it as an exciting change, whereas we're just shattered and want to sleep! Maybe your DH could do bedtime routine tonight and you could escape to the bath?

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PavlovtheForgetfulCat · 14/08/2009 07:49

no chance of him doing bedtime routine seeing as he was at home on his own while i was packed off to a friends. The place has steel supports up in the rooms to stop the floor/ceiling caving in and its not a good place to be in right now, DH wont even let me in to see!

So DD went to bed, finally at 10pm after running around forever then not being able to settle as she was scared of the monsters etc. She was meant to be sleeping in the same room as friend's 4 yo but she ended up in bed with me. And I am very tired, but at least not dealing with builders this morning, poor DH is doing that all by himself

Who won the scottish footie, poor you being out numbered!

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scarlotti · 14/08/2009 09:29

Probably a good thing you've been packed off, no dust and builders to contend with and hopefully your DD will be kept occupied by your friends lo. Maybe she'll settle better tonight as it's less of a novelty?!

Norway won, very convincingly so the level of the language was quite blue! Luckily the dc's are at my Mum's

Tiredness just seems par for the course now, I just don't seem to be getting the quality of sleep I used to.

Ninjacat · 14/08/2009 10:41

We are a footy free home. Dp and ds just not into it but they do plenty of other things to drive me crazy.

Could you ask the friends you're staying with to have dd for a couple of hours and go and meet dh for a drink or a walk to take your mind off everything (and agree that you won't even discuss building work). You could offer to do the same for them the following night?

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PavlovtheForgetfulCat · 14/08/2009 10:55

ninja some different friends to where I am staying, they have offered to have DD tomorrow ALL day and overnight, so we are going to a friend's parent's silver wedding anniversary for an hour, then home for a movie and early night. Unfortunately the builders are in tomorrow too, but DH and I will do something just us, maybe go for lunch, do some shopping as we can't seem to do that with DD atm!

We are lucky we have some very good friends around us.

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Ninjacat · 14/08/2009 11:13

I'm glad you've got such caring friends. Enjoy your time off.
Oh and give the builders a big peachy smile as you head off for lunch.

scarlotti · 14/08/2009 12:04

pav that sounds just the ticket to help you de-stress and unwind. Great friends

AngelDog · 15/08/2009 09:05

Pavlov, just keep remembering that you'll be really pleased you had the work done once it's finished. We had ours done last year when I was pregnant with DC1, and off work sick with an unrelated health problem. Trying to sleep whilst the builders used hammer drills to put the joists in wasn't a pleasant experience. But now it's great having the extra space (and incidentally, we are the envy of all our friends!)

At one point we thought the company was going to go bust - they had cash flow problems and hadn't paid the guys doing the work for the previous week. But it all got sorted in the end. My advice would definitely be not to pay the last amount of money until you are completely satisfied - stick to your guns. Once you've paid, if you find any further problems, the builder just won't want to know.

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PavlovtheForgetfulCat · 15/08/2009 10:47

Thanks Angel - good advice - yes we will appreciate it once it is done, its just getting there that is a hassle! I know what you mean about not being able to sleep when hammer drills are being used - suffered from severe hyperemisis up until quite recently and it was not nice trying to recover from a bout of sickness with the workman here!

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Ninjacat · 15/08/2009 11:38

Hope you are enjoying your day off

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PavlovtheForgetfulCat · 08/10/2009 10:33

just bumping this to bring back into my threads so i can print - need some info from it, don't post!

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