Pregnancy and Fear

[Ailebe]

First of all, I want to thank you for accepting me in this forum and so I start by saying hello to everyone in this Forum.

I... I just do not know how to start but well, I am pregnant now, finally, after trying about three years I have finally been blessed by God and was gifted with pregnancy. I just am so afraid that anything might go wrong. I can't really explain what it is inside me that gives me this irrevocable feeling. It kind of kills me inside that I do not know why though I know that something truly is wrong. My husband tells me that I might be overreacting overprotecting about the pregnancy and the unborn child inside me (we decided not to find out whether it is a boy or a girl) but I just know that something seems to go wrong, though I feel healthy. I do not know why I have these fears, but I just can't let it slip away, I simply can't.

Is there anyone outside who knows what I am going through and might be able to speak out a recommendation to help me at least a little bit. I just want to be completely happy about this pregnancy without constantly thinking about something maybe going wrong.

I think it's completely normal - I've certainly spent far too long worrying about what could go wrong. I just try to be rational about it and remember how rare it is for something to go wrong.

I guess if it's really affecting you, you could try counselling?

Ailebe, congratulations

Fears about things going wrong are completely normal in pregnancy, especially as you have been trying for such a long time.

How far along are you? You will find that as each milestone passes your anxiety will ease a little bit.

Try to spend a little bit of time every day having only positive thoughts. Look after yourself and imagine all the good that this is doing your baby.

It is such a long time til you have that baby in your arms so try to make it as easy on yourself as you can.

good luck x

Oh it is completely normal especially if you have had a problem in the past or, like you have been waiting a long time. Its almost as if it is too good to be true and you can't believe it and expect something to go wrong.

Your husband is right and lots and lots of women feel the way you do.

I had a miscarriage before I had my son (10 months) and it was very difficult to relax during the next pregnancy as I was convinced something was wrong. But what I used to do was send my thoughts to the baby, telling it to grow big and strong and I used to also MAKE myself feel happy each day by telling myself that I was still pregnant and nothing was wrong that day, and that I wouldn't worry until I had a reason to or I was told something was wrong.

tRY IT.

how far along are you? have you had any scans yet?