Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Flip

1 2

Original poster

Oh my god, I'm pregnant

47 replies

dizzymare · 13/07/2009 11:49

The last few months has been really stressful for me, so it never occured to me that I'd missed periods until I was going through my diary. So I've done a test and it's positive, what the hell am I gonna do. Ds is 19months, I'm a single parent now and god I can't stop bloody crying now.

OP posts:

Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

Original poster

dizzymare · 13/07/2009 22:20

Ronnie, that's it! Thank you Smac

OP posts:

FAQinglovely · 14/07/2009 12:59

how are you today dizzy?

Original poster

dizzymare · 14/07/2009 14:17

I'm ok I guess, tired, but then I didn't have the best night and ds was up at 5.30. I managed to speak to my mother this morning and she's going to come to the dr with me tomorrow for some moral support, and said she doesn't mind being here if I need her to be when I tell my h. I thought I'd just do it over the phone, because the thought of doing it face to face fills me with utter dread tbh. And at least that way, if I need to I can put the phone down.

OP posts:

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 14/07/2009 17:02

I feel so sad you feel worried about telling him and also think you might hang up on him. He is the father of your kids and you loved him once - can you try and be more positive?

Original poster

dizzymare · 14/07/2009 22:56

I'm sorry, I am trying to be, and feel more positive, and maybe once I've seen my dr tomorrow and talked things through I might feel better about it. And you're right, I did love him once, but this pregnancy has kind of toppled me over a little, but I have to get on with life and make best of what we have, and build a life for this baby aswell.

OP posts:

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 15/07/2009 08:07

Please don't apologise. There is nothing to apologise for. I feel I should say sorry to you as I wonder if you feel I am hasseling you. You just sound so low and worried and I am trying to help but probably making it worse.

Hope the doctor's appointment goes well and gives you the help and support you need.

BecauseImWorthIt · 15/07/2009 10:06

Good luck today, dizzy. Hope things go well for you. Glad that you have your mum with you.

nappyaddict · 15/07/2009 10:43

TTry and keep positive - it's not the end of the world If you already have a child together you were never going to get a completely fresh start from XH.

Original poster

dizzymare · 15/07/2009 19:57

What a day it's been, I've had it made official and I'm already 11weeks 4 days , and I've been given an edd of 5th Feb 10, which seems a million miles away to me.

Anyway, H now knows, and actually took it much better than I expected. I don't really know what I expected now, but as it's been a shock for me I wasn't prepared for it in the normal way iukwim, so all my emotion has been of dread, so that was transferred onto me expecting a negative response from him I suppose. So things are feeling a little better and I think I can almost manage a

OP posts:

Deemented · 15/07/2009 20:01

Im glad things went well today, Dizzy.

I'm 13 weeks now and this pregnancy wasn't planned in the slightest and i've been feeling more then a bit 'meh' about it. Scared, worried.. all that kinda thing.

Hope things continue to get better for you.

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 15/07/2009 20:04

That is great.

What are your plans now?

Haribosmummy · 15/07/2009 20:07

Hi Dizzy...

I can really empathise with your shock. I'm just about to have No. 2 and No. 1 is only 13 months old!!! To say finding out was a shock was an understatement (and DH and I are still very much together!!!)

get yourself a scan booked as a matter of urgency. Get a date - it will make things more 'real' and also give you a sense of timing... If I were you, I'd get that sorted before you tell your H.

Got to go now, but be back later.

Original poster

dizzymare · 15/07/2009 20:40

I've got to see a midwife on friday to get booked in and sort everything else out. My surgerys got it's own midwife so getting that sorted asap wasn't a problem, then I'll get a scan sorted, although I'm not sure how I feel about that yet. And I know that really sounds strange, and I feel a plonker for even saying it, but actually seeing baby on screen makes it all even more real?
As for my own personal plans, well looking after myself for one, and getting my head around it all. If I'm brutely honest I think that's going to take me some time, I never saw myself as having another baby, well not just yet anyway. Even if we'd not separated, it was never on my cards for at least another couple of years, but I'm getting there.And maybe once I've seen baby, things will feel different again.

OP posts:

FAQinglovely · 15/07/2009 20:43

aww glad your H took it ok .

still on the end of CAT if you want to chat.

Original poster

dizzymare · 15/07/2009 20:48

I don't know how to do CAT

OP posts:

FAQinglovely · 15/07/2009 20:53

are you on Facebook?

Original poster

dizzymare · 15/07/2009 20:59

No, I don't use facebook either What about my email address, can I put that up on here?

OP posts:

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 15/07/2009 21:26

Is your H going to the scan with you?

Original poster

dizzymare · 15/07/2009 22:08

If he does come it'll be because he wants to be there, not because I want him to be there. This doesn't feel like when I was expecting ds, and I think the more involved he is the more confused I'll get. He'll always be daddy, that won't change, but for me to get used to all this in my head I think I will need to do some of it alone now.

Sorry, I don't think I'm explaining myself very well, hormones and tiredness are taking over.

OP posts:

CarGirl · 15/07/2009 22:18

I'm glad your dh took it okay. In many ways it's nice that your dc will have each other regardless of what the future brings.

I hope your Mum can give you some practical support and that your dh will too despite the circumstances! I know what you mean about needing to be seperate from your dh emotionally and doing it for yourself as much as possible, it's part of the process of moving on.

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 16/07/2009 11:43

And it will be hard to separate your feelings for him and his right to be involved in the pregnancy. I wish you luck.

Original poster

dizzymare · 16/07/2009 22:29

Thank you CarGirl and FabBakerGirl

OP posts:

Flip

1 2

Swipe left for the next trending thread