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the strangest response you have had to telling someone you are pregnant ?

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sazlocks · 12/07/2009 21:47

I thought that two of my colleagues asking if it was planned was pretty odd but got the strangest so far today on telling a friends 20 something daughter who said " oh never mind" to which her mother replied "she doesn't do children" charming !

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flamingtoaster · 13/07/2009 14:52

SIL in being told we were expecting our first baby on New Years Eve, "Well that will mess Christmas up." (I wouldn't be able to travel for the big family Christmas which she was obsessed with).

My Mother on being told she was going to be a granny again when I was pregnant for the second time. "Oh I thought you would be thinking about the change, not a second baby." I was in my thirties.

makipuppy · 13/07/2009 14:53

After our six week scan, DP and I wanted to tell my mum and dad our news, that their 41 year old daughter, having made a career out of relationships with commitment-phones, was finally having a baby, on Dad's 75th birthday, DB and SIL gathered around the table. I handed them the scan pic and said it was another present from us but they would have to wait eight more months for it. My mum said:

"What is it? Is it a puppy?"

Silence. No, it's a baby.

"Well, sorry, but it looks all furry".

A WTF moment if ever I heard one...

(they were actually thrilled).

ruddynorah · 13/07/2009 14:53

i've had a few people at work say to me 'AGAIN???!!'

which is odd as dd will be 3.6 when dc2 is born in november, so not exactly a short gap! i think they just forget how time flies kind of thing.

one bloke even said

'every time i see you you're pregnant!!' umm yes, probably if you only last saw me mmmm 3 years ago.

flowerybeanbag · 13/07/2009 15:01

I am so shocked at how rude some people are!

My MIL said 'oh that's fine' when we told her we were expecting DC2. Er, I wasn't looking for your permission MIL, although 'congratulations' might have been nice....

She then proceeded to spend the rest of the evening waffling on about how she hopes we have a girl because girls are so much better. In front of her own DS, my DH, and bearing in mind we already have one DS.

We are having another boy. Mwahaha!

skihorse · 13/07/2009 15:03

makipuppy hahahaha!

My dad said "well that's a big responsibility for you. I'm going to work."

Frasersmum123 · 13/07/2009 15:10

'Are you sure' - from MIL

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TAFKAtheUrbanDryad · 13/07/2009 15:27

"Oh." (My mother on being told I was pg with dd, to be fair I wasn't instantly thrilled either!)

"Oh goodness, how will you cope?!" (My brother - age gap is 2 years!)

"It had better be a girl this time!" (Oh, ok then MIL, i'll just make sure the foetus has the extra Y chromosome, just to make you happy. We would have been just as happy with a boy!)

chamoiscreased · 13/07/2009 16:34

Why do people insist on asking if it was planned? It really winds me up. What a rude question, they might as well say 'were you having unprotected sex?'

Scorps · 13/07/2009 16:36

I'm pregnant with my 4th, every time since 2nd pg MIL has told DH to tie a knot in it.

My parents are always thrilled.

norktasticninja · 13/07/2009 16:41

We have an 18 month age gap and everyone (and I do mean everyone) assumed it wasn't planned. Some people still don't seem to accept we wanted a second [grr] I got some lovely looks buying pregnancy tests when we were TTC DS too!

Oh, SIL asked MIL why she let us have a second child so soon after DD, she does have ASD and mental health issues, but WTF. How was MIL supposed to stop us? Physical intervention?

JimmyMcNulty · 13/07/2009 16:53

"Is it a gingerbread man?"

(Ds1, on being shown ds2 at the scan.)

bevlin · 13/07/2009 17:44

jimmymcnulty awwww, how cute is that. I bet he wishes it was!!

feelingpositivemum · 13/07/2009 18:00

My nearly ex H, 'oh god, that's another few years before you can help me with the business'..Mmm you did have a part to play in this!

fruitshootsandheaves · 13/07/2009 18:04

my dad 'don't ever ask me to babysit because I won't do it'

work colleague 'giving birth is like having 20 red hot pokers shoved up your bum'

bevlin · 13/07/2009 18:39

I almost forgot my personal favourite - "you'll be wanting a girl this time". If one more person say's that to me Im going to get violent. "Why of course, naturally we are extremley disapointed with our son and a girl would make up for that"! One of my DH friends, wife who has been blessed with 2 DD's unlike unlucky old me, said it and then proceeded to say "oh Id have hated a boy, Im glad I've got girls". My DS was standing there looking pretty cute I thought!

RunningFaery · 13/07/2009 19:22

"You're having twins, I'm telling you. The other one is just hiding behind the first"

Riiiiight.

GuernseyFrench · 13/07/2009 19:33

From a work colleague when I announced to him: 'I'm not going to tell you congratulations.'

Another work colleague who heard it from the work rumor: 'Congratulations! Is that to be kept secret?'

Is that me or that's weird?!

lotti89 · 13/07/2009 20:13

when i told the dad i was pregnant, he said GUTTED (that i was preg), wtf that all about like, the only thing that was gutted was him been the dad,

carrielou2007 · 13/07/2009 20:55

One of my receptionists when I told her I was expecting dd now 2.5 said 'I knew it! Of course you know I don't agree with babies being born outside of marriage but I am pleased for you'.

She is now retired and popped into work last week and I could not resist telling her I was expecting again. She sat there open mouthed and one of my other receptionists piped up 'I've never known you not to say anything' whilst trying not to laugh.

One of my patients asked 'if it were planned or had I been a very silly girl?'!! Is it still 1952??!!

My mum on the other hand who is very 'sniffy' about single parents just keeps crying with happiness .

soulsu · 13/07/2009 21:00

These are funny. I am a housing officer and I've had tenants say to me 'oh you dirty mare' as DD had only just turn one when I got pregnant and I only just returned to work. This comment tends to lead onto 'you couldn't have planned it then', well actually yes, but none of your bloody business.

Colleagues are also quite incredulous, 'oh my god, you taking another year off, you are only just back' yes I am but what's it got to do with you. I also regularly get from my boss about hellish it will be and how on earth will I cope and that I am fantastically naive and don't know what I in for. Aargh!!!! This really pisses me off, Why on earth is it anyone else's business!

If anyone can't say congratulations then don't say anything at all. Anyway rant over!

bethoo · 13/07/2009 21:07

i told my boss today as he kept going on about me applying for a new job and i said that due to change in circumstances i will not be looking as i m pregnant (bareing in mind just cme off maternity leave 3 months ago and dd is 9 months and i am 15 weeks pregnant!) said ''you should wear a turban!'' then proceeded to tell my line manager that i should be (dont mean to offend) black the amount of kids i am having and have i not heard of contraception??? to be honest i feel embarrassed being pregnant!

AngelaCarleen · 14/07/2009 09:02

I'm so glad it isn't just me!

-5 people asked me if 'it's' planned
-the people who do the off-duty just looked at me - no smile, just stared
-someone worked out I'll be off for christmas and said 'you'll be popular'

charming, bearing in mind I'm on my own as my husbands away and live miles away from my family. I was hoping for a hug

Pinkcaz · 14/07/2009 12:21

lol well my brother did say 'Well Done' when i told him it was a girl... and a friend from school was great ' Another one bites the dust' hehe

PinkTulips · 14/07/2009 12:30

my cousin; 'so is it commiseration or congratulations?'

my mother; cried about dd and told me my life was over, told me 'you'll never have a life now' at ds1... she was a bit nicer about ds2, only said 'you are going to stop now though?'

gp; 'my god you must be very fertile' on hearing i hadn't had a period since having dd and was pregnant again