Please share your experiences, just had 6 week scan, no heartbeat

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Hello, I get nervous starting new threads but here goes. I went to the EPU this morning as I just had a bad feeling. My LMP was May 16th, though I ov'd on CD 23 (according to the Clearblue fertility monitor). By my calculations this makes me no less than 6 weeks pg, but the doctor said I looked to be 4 - 5 weeks. They could see an empty sac but no heartbeat. They gave me another pg test which was +ive, then told me to come back in 2 weeks time. Has anyone else been through this? Is there any cause for hope, given that I'm sure of the date of my LMP? Is there anything I can do, like have a blood test to measure HCG levels? (I wasn't offered this, and forgot to ask). Is it possible for the bean just to stop growing, yet not have cramping or bleeding? I'm just trying to avoid waiting two weeks in hellish limbo, as I've been here before, same time last year, and it hurts so much (emotionally - I'm not in physical pain). Thank you for any help or advice you can give.

I'd like to share my experience too, if that's okay - not least just as an outlet for my grief.

It currently looks like we are going to lose our baby, following a scan last Thursday in which it doesn't look like he/she is developing properly. I'm due to go back for another scan tomorrow morning, but having sensed for a while that something was wrong, have resigned myself to the inevitable.

In terms of how it's happened - I found out I was pg on May 27th and for various reasons, opted for an early private dating scan. We had that the following week, where I was put between 5 and 6 weeks. It was too early to see anything other than a sac and yolk, so was advised to come back two weeks later.

Fourteen days later, we went back and we saw our baby with a heartbeat - however, he or she was only big enough to be dated at 6+4, which seemed odd given the dates from the scan a fortnight earlier. That said, we kept being reassured by the sonographer that the fact there was a heartbeat was the thing we should focus on, so that's exactly what we did.

But sadly, last Thursday (two and a half weeks after the last one) we went for our third scan and the baby could only be dated at 7 weeks. Surprisingly, there was still a heartbeat, but it's now obvious there is something wrong in terms of his or her development.

DP and I are devastated but trying to be positive. Am probably going to opt for the ERPC, as I don't think I could cope with the trauma of bleeding.

Anyway, I just wanted to share my experience in case it helps others, and to say that I've found threads on MN totally invaluable. So thank you. x

VivCliquot am so sorry to hear this, I remember you from another thread I was on.

I hope that you have support at home and that you continue to get support here. Sending you my thoughts.

Thanks beanieb - I remember you too.

My DP is being AMAZING and I feel unbelievably lucky to have him. On top of that, my parents, close friends and also work colleagues who were aware of the pregnany have also been brilliant, so I do feel incredibly lucky to have that support network around me.

It's still utterly horrific though and I'm not sure how I'm going to feel after tomorrow.

I am not quite sure whether I am contributing anything or just venting too but it looks like I am lining up for a third miscarriage in ten months.

I started spotting on Friday and experiencing cramping and on Saturday I went and had a private scan - the embryo looked 2 weeks undersized but there was a heartbeat. Now I have to wait until next tuesday to see the baby again and its the waiting that is so difficult.

I am still spotting and cramping and having really bad lower back pain so I have just to sit tight and wait... its so difficult I am thinking of all of you out there in similar situations

VivCliquot and Maisie, I'm so so sorry to hear your experiences. All I can say is I know how you feel. I am there with you. It sucks. There aren't any words. I am still bleeding, though the cramping is less bad today, but when I walk up the stairs I feel like my empty uterus is rattling. It feels like a deflated balloon (sorry to be so graphic). It is such a visceral feeling. MN has been invaluable to me too - I honestly couldn't have got through yesterday without it. Thank you all so much from the bottom of my heart for your kind words, and for sharing your experiences. I will check back on here over the next few days and hope very much for some happy endings for others.