Just remembered a really silly comment I had a million times back in the day when I was pregnant

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Very pointless, DS is almost three! But I remembered this and wanted to chuckle over it with People Who Know.

I had hyperemesis and several people said to me many times post 12 weeks "But you are supposed to stop being sick after the first trimester!" as if I was being very naughty by ignoring the clearly written rules. I was in hospital on a drip off and on and DS was prem in the end. I used to get so annoyed when people said that to me.

One woman - who was really quite a bitch - actually said it in a disapproving voice after I was sick in a drain off the side of a pavement it came on me all the time it was awful.

can my sash please be pale georgian blue with thin gold stripes on a cream background? Thanks

TBH I dont know much (yet) about attachment disorder. Today was the first I had heard of it. When the psychologist said he reckoned that is what it is. (I am of course manically googling)

DS is very very bright, very affectionate, very loving, quite astonishingly imaginative. But very anxious, and controlling, and fretful, and has a lot of strange little ways about him. He is very much a one off. I gather with AD (am making that abbreviation up myself to stop myself having to type it so many times!) he was premature, not drastically but a month. Oh wait... if I tell you I'd be telling my birth story and I do have a rule not to that to pregnant mothers

Put it this way. He left my body very reluctantly and with much painful persuasion on both our parts. If you really want to know I dont mind telling you at all on my own account but I do not want to force a negative story on anyone if that makes sense.

But I gather AD means he has huge anxiety because he doesnt want to leave me but of course it is sad in that he is very insecure. He is usually plastered to the side of me, naked is even better (in my bed, not the shops)

There is this link but I am only just starting to read it so I dont know yet if I agree it applies to DS - um - actually I read the first paragraph it says it is found in children who have been abused or neglected in infancy!

fucking hell wtf???? The Dr I saw today said it was traumatic birth.

sounds a little like my ds who is 2 1/2.
i might be playing down the issue (sorry if i am) but you have read a book called the highly sensitive child? it really helped me to be more understanding when ds was driving me completely crazy and breaking down whenever he was in a social situation and more than 5 cm away from me.

he's an interesting one, can recite books by heart, spell things, very imaginative etc, but just seems not to be able to cope in social situations and needs his mummy like nothing else. even dh is at a loss at the moment because he's so attached to mummy. i think the pregnancy is also making it worse.

i don't mind a scary birth story, but won't ask you to inflict it on others. i had ds in 4 hours at home, very chilled birth. so somehow i think i'm immune to crappy births (we'll see in a few months i suppose). had a lot of trouble with ds as a baby, one cranial osteopath that i saw at the time suggested that such a fast labour can cause babies to be unsettled and super super attached to their mum. interesting.

consider the sash done.

oh yeah, i'm drawing the line at more babies now too. this will be my second though (i was lucky to only have very very mild nausea the first time). this experience has completley turned me off ever being pregnant again.

I have had a sick free day today so can't compete for the sash - although the design sounds lovely!
You would have laughed at my poor husband the other week, we were driving home and I was hurling out the window all down our street so he felt it only polite to go out with hose pipe and clean up after me! We like our neighbours!!!

LOL I was sick once as DH was driving the car, it splattered all over the place, just stuck my head out the window like a poor dog!

audrey I keep meaning to read that book actually because it has been recommended so many times, but I just havent got around to getting it! Am on a big ordering library books spree so will check it out.

sjbj Glad you like the design of the sash I thought it sounded quite fetching myself... perhaps you could have one with a pale blue background, and cream and gold stripes?

Shall we post in the crafts section of MN looking for a seamstress?

Those of you who are put off having any more-I accidentally got pg with ds when dd was only 10 months old and was dreading the thought of morning sickness again. As it was I only had the puking constantly for about 2 weeks, puking once or twice a day for another couple of weeks and severe nausea until week 14-so, not too bad at all.

My obstetrician with dd also thought she was a twin (very big sac at 6 weeks internal scan , one heartbeat and one faint fuzzy blob at 9 weeks) so maybe that's why it was so bad with her and not so with ds...

i too am bitter....my eldest is nearly 9!!!

i too vomited morning, noon and even woke all through the night to be sick for the first 20 odd weeks of each pregnancy...(and then the low blood pressure fainting started!) it was horrific..i used to have to carry small food bags around in my pockets all the time to be sick into.....on the plus side, i am now, after 3 kids, the worlds quietest puker! [proud]

what really used to piss me right off is people who used to say, oh, its ok for you..i'd much rather BE sick than FEEL sick all the time! errrr yeah, because the physical act of actual sickness eases the nausea no end....NOT!

huge sympathies from me on this, to anyone who suffers.