pregnancy after previous late /miscariage at 23 weeks. feeling anxious , scared

[mummylight]

Hello ladies, i am currently 17 weeks pregnant with my 4th baby, after losing my son Henry last June. I lost him due to catching a viral infection which led to premature labour pains which they could not stop. I had to have a few blood transfusions and was extremely poorly. I am so scared of the same thing happeneing again and the bigger i get the more worried i am something awful is going to happen. My obs has a careplan in place for me. I can't talk to my husband as he just keeps saying everything will be okay. And on top of this i am still grieving for my little boy i lost whose anniversary is on Mon 1st June. I am wondering if anyone else has been through similar.

hi mummylight, very sorry to hear of your loss.

If it would help, you are very welcome to come over and join us on the knicker checkers thread (we're all ladies who are pg after miscarriage, so you're sure of a sympathetic ear).

It sounds as though hubby is trying to stay positive and strong for you. Have you spoken to anyone from SANDS at all details here ? A friend who lost her little girl quite late on has found them very helpful so I thought I'd post the details for you.

Good luck and I hope you get through rest of your pregnancy ok. Apparently the chance of a miscarriage after 8 weeks is only 2% (according to the Miscarriage Association) and if you've already had one you'd be very unlucky to suffer another. I know it's easier said than done but try to take one day at a time, and be kind to yourself.

Thank you so much blondieminx for your kind reply. I will check out the knicker thread. When i first lost him i did go on the sands forum. It did help, but also it made me realize that this happens to many people and so many other things can go wrong. I am now slightly paranoid. Your right i have managed to carry two previous babies who are now 10 and 3 so fingers crossed with this one. I am presently having councelling too.Maybe i am finding things sooo difficult at the moment because Henry's anniversary is coming up 1st June. thanks again and i will comeover to the other thread xx