Why am I feeling like this?

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I feel so sad right now, I have for a few days. I don't know what is wrong with me.

I should be happy, I have a wonderful DD (18mo) I have another on the way (32+5) and a wonderful DH. I should be happy but I cant actually find it in me to let myself experience any happiness ATM.

I cant/don't/wont find joy in anything that I love doing.

I just cant get my head right IYSWIM.

I understand I am 33 weeks and although I am very happy about the pg it was planned for about a week I seem to be unable to feel happy. I keep worrying about the effect dc2 will have on ds. Also seem to be getting sad and crying about everything. I guess its just hormones. That doesn't really help though when I think its the end of the world. Never mind it will be over for both of us soon. I hate feeling sad. I never felt sad on ds only would get bursts of anger which I prefer.

slushy, that is exactly it, I never felt sad with DD1, I have cried so much in this pregnancy. I keep thinking that it's not worth it, but it is, all this trouble I am having in this pregnancy means nothing when at the end of it I am gonna have another beautiful baby.
But I just cant seem to get excited or happy over it IYSWIM.

I seem to put on a 'happy face' when I am around other people including DH. It's a 'face' that says I am fine, nothing wrong with me, I feel fine. But even these last few days DH has noticed as he keeps asking if I am okay.

I cant seem to get my brain into gear, it is like my mind is exhausted.

my dp is to well tuned for me to be able to hide it from him. It did help when he made me sit down and tell him though as he reminded me that we really want this baby and that everything will be fine. Try talking to your dh about how you feel he will probably help. Even if he dosn't say anything as at least it will be off your chest. If nothing else it will probably stop you feeling guilty about all this. But I had a bad dream last night that has kind of made me happier. I dreamt my milk didn't come through and social took the baby away. But it made me realise how silly I have been.

I don't want to burden him slushy. The main thing I am worried about is that this is gonna end up as PND after the baby is born.

How am I gonna cope, mentally, then when I can't mentally cope now.

Sorry, gotta go now, taking DD1 to my nana's for the day. I will be back later.

Thank you for understanding.

You will cope because you wont have all these pg hormones flying around. So things can only get better and I am sure your dh would not see it as a burden. In fact he is probably more worried not knowing whats wrong.

I don't think I will cope, at the minute I hate everything about myself the only good thing in my life is DD.

Hmmmmm...I have been feeling the same. Am currently 34 weeks. We very much want this baby but I just can't seem to get excited. I just feel sad, scared, and alone. It must be hormones, surely? Am desperately hoping that when the baby is born the "right" emotions kick in and that I love the baby and am happy to be a mum.

chaya I think it is a mix of hormones and worry about the birth and effect on existing children. Or if a first time mum worry over how you will cope. I think it is just that we have realised that the baby will be here soon and are panicking. Perhaps I did feel this with ds and just don't remember owing to all the other emotions that I felt after birth.

Add my name to the list.

The crying and emotional turbulence here have been quite astonishing. I'm in a constant state of worry/irritation.

I feel like I can't remember the last time I actually felt happy or enjoyed myself, like being under a cloud.

I also feel, selfishly, cross about the timing of the baby for work reasons, and horribly jealous of DP who is about to start an exciting new job. I am grumpy with DD and the DSDs, and just want to curl up in bed ALL DAY.

I haven't been able to imagine an actual baby yet, which is saddening. I've been told I have antibodies, so now I think that's why I can't think about a baby - he's not going to survive. I guess it's a safety mechanism. I've had so much stress about this, and external factors, but I still feel like I should be able to be happy and look forward to his arrival... and that makes me feel cheated!

Why isn't it as much fun as the first pregnancy? I guess it's just luck and hormones... PAH!

Hi there

I am 38+1 and know what you are going through. This is my second and very much planned. Actually for most of the pregnancy I have been happy, chilled and excited. But in the last couple of weeks my mood has taken a sudden down turn. I can't sleep, I am exhausted and worried how I will cope. I feel a bit down and not as 'in tune' with my baby and the pregnancy. I am putting it down to hormones and just the strain of the final weeks.

The other night I lost it with DH and screamed at him to f*k off and stop leaving s*t around the house . This is not like me! It must be hormones.

Just remember it is very demanding being pregnant and looking after another little one. I have found having a relaxing bath and listening to hypnotherapy CDs helpful. I have also just read a book about waterbirth which states that 'dark times' in pregnancy are normal. I am just trying to embrace each mood, accept it and let myself have a good cry if I feel like it.

For what it is worth, I didn't have nearly so many hormonal ups and downs with DS but ended up with PND/anxiety. Partly because I didn't let myself feel these things and the family issues I had at the time. Told myself I had to be happy all the time. I think pregnancy and motherhood is a rollercoster but you will be fine