why oh why! pushy families

[iateallthecreameggsyummy]

Ok here goes needing a rant....

Miscarried 5 weeks ago i was 5 1/2 weeks pregnant. Tested yesterday and got a BFP which i am now really happy about!

Wasn't going to tell anyone, so told a close sister and this morning found myself telling anoother sister. Have decided not to be stressed this time, take it a day at a time and see how things go, i dont want to hastle Dr's etc for at least a week or so and i dont want to rush into EPU for early scans stressing myself out when they probably wont see anything for a couple weeks at least anyway. Im not bleeding and so in my mind i have nothing to worry about.

This morning i have been told to quit smoking immediately (obvious i know how bad i am i didnt think it would happen this soon so please please no lectures ) Call my Dr now and get a scan appt, i may be 2 weeks may be 5 weeks, just basicallly stuff i already know.

I just wish people could understand that i dont want to stress out this time, i am pregnant and i dont want to spend the next fortnight worrying about every little thing, and then the topping on the cake was being told, well you wasn't going to tell me and you did, you wasn't going to test and you did, and so your not going to see the Dr so you will!Why oh why does it matter........

I wish i'd kept my big mouth shut and not mentioned it to anyone i feel like my balloon has been popped before ive even had a chance to enjoy it.

Aw, sorry you're feeling that way.

But it does sound as though your sisters are just excited and concerned and want to be involved. Which is a good thing in the long run, after all. I expect you're feeling hormonal and a bit anxious and vulnerable, but I am sure no-one wanted to pop your balloon.

Hmmmmm...that is tricky. I guess families get excited and want to be involved and this is how they show it.

My mum can be like this but how I handle it is to just listen to whatever she says and then do what I want. The moment you start actually responding or engaging with her she'll just continue talking and it encourages her for the future. So I suggest you let them talk and then just change the subject to something else. If you argue with them you'll use up too much energy that you could be using to be happy and excited.

Hope that helps...

Why did you tell them then? In all fairness you must have known they'd get excited/worried/try to help. Try not to get wound up about it though!

I know im asking myself the same question!

Maybe it is just hormones i am having a nice cup of tea now and chilling!

Families just care but I know it can be irritating...makes note to self to take own advice and stop snapping at mother and her well meaning advice...!

lol