8 weeks pregnant and still trying to hide it...

[SarahL2]

but as this is my second child and I showed very early with DS1 (and have been addicted to carbs for the last fortnight to ward off m/s)- I already have a tum.

Actually I should say - my tum has gotten bigger. I have never managed to shift all the weight I put on with DS and was at least a stone overweight before I fell pregnant. My saggy tummy skin has never quite recovered and I have never shifted the overhang that I was left with

Because this made me feel very self concsious, I have worn those huge, up to your ribcage pants whenever I've been out of the house for over a year. I've tried not to wear them since I found out about the pregnancy a couple of weeks ago but tomorrow we're going to a family wedding...

Normally for these events I would have a double layer of control pants with control tights over the top to squish me in as much as possible - obviously I can't do that but can i wear one or the other?

I know I'm pregnant and I know I'm supposed to be getting bigger (and I am, my jeans are already getting tight and can be uncomfortable) but I am only 8 weeks and I miscarried at 6 weeks last time so I am a bit unsure of this pregnancy and certainly don't want to be announcing it to everyone just yet so I don't want to look pregnant tomorrow.

So, can I wear my support tights maybe just to smooth things out a little without hurting the baby?

Any help would be very much appreciated, thanks

I don't think support tights will harm the baby at all but i could be wrong

I wouldn't to be honest

I'm no expert but your tummy is expanding to accomodate a growing baby

Trying to squish it in a little doesn't sound like a good idea.

Know how you feel though, I'm 20 weeks with number 3 and it was impossible to disguise it, I gave up and ended up in maternity clothes by 12 weeks

I'm in the same boat, 8 weeks gone, wedding next week, had two mcs at 6 weeks 6 months apart so super cautious. I'm going to be doing a lot of casually holding my pashmina/handbag/ds/a large plate of food in front of my tummy!

I think I've chose my dress well to hide what I can. Still think I look tubby though. Tights would help with my bottom too...

Will dig out the pashmina HeadFairy good idea. Are you on the due in December board yet?

squishing should be fine

SarahL2 I tried to hide my pregnancy at work for as long as I could but everyone guessed as I too began craving carbs. What are you wearing?

Hi Sarah, I'm staying clear of any due in boards I'm afraid, I've had to bow out of too many, so until I know I'm in the clear I'm trying to pretend I'm not even pg!

I hid my first pregnancy at work until 14 weeks. I just wore loose clothing and nobody mentioned anything.

Second baby, I already had a visible bump at 10 weeks and, like you, a wedding to go to. I chose to tell everyone, as a) I couldn't be arsed to squeeze into my Spanx - wasn't particularly worried about it, but it was getting so uncomofrtable; and b) I didn;t want to have to make excuses about not drinking.

I had also miscarried the previous year, so I do sympathise, but personally, I would just be upfront about it.

mamaspanx tights are good - they support the "overhang" but don't squash your bump. i found they made me look (or at least feel) a bit slimmer when i was huge but only 3 months pregnant.

expensive though.

Thanks mololoko but the wedding is tomorrow so I have no way of ordering any in time. Wish I'd asked this earlier.

MadameCheese I have a red wine coloured dress. Asymmetric hem and a band round my middle that looks like it ties off to one side. Crosses over my bust. The rouched fabric of the dress and the tie do a little to hide my mini bump but I still look a little chubby... What did you use to hide your bump?

HeadFairy I've not added myself to the official list yet but pop in to say hi now and again. Will make it official after my scan I think

I'm having an early scan on Monday, but I don't think I'll be adding myself on to the stats until I'm past 12 weeks.

I've got to wait till 12 weeks - it's agony!!!

Poor you. The more I read threads on here the more I thank God for our fabulous EPU. No appt necessary, walk in and take a number. Anxiety is considered a perfectly good reason for an early scan, you can even come for one once a week if you're really nervous. My gp has said I should go at 8 weeks and whenever I feel I need some reassurance.. that's such a wonderful thing to have access to.

Oh that would be wonderful. The only way I can have an early scan is to pay £95 and go private

Ouch!

Sounds gorgeous, you'll look fab! I couldn't hide it in my rubbish nurse uniforms so I'm no help. Hope all goes well with your scan and pregnancy xxx

I went for the tights only and they feel quite comfortable so far. I certainly don't feel squished so I think baby will be OK

Well done SarahL2-hope it goes well!! I too would be interested on whether wearing the super tummy holding in tights is ill advised in pregnancy. I am due back at work next week, and will be 8 weeks pregnant. This is my 2nd pregnancy and with no.1 I hid it for months (I tricked people at 7 months with wrap cardigans and scarf!) However this time I have been carb mad and totally have a bump already,I am wondering whether it's triplets! It feels somewhat unprofessional going back pregnant after an extra long maternity leave so, I'm kind of hoping to hide it for a couple months! Suggestions welcome!!!

With my first we really needed to hide it as we found out 2 wks before my wedding and we didnt want people to know... there are generally very loose fitting colourful tops in Next and New Look at the min (not maternity)...

the other suggestion tho you may not want to do it is to mumble something about how difficult it is to lose babyweight and then maybe people will assume your little tum is a post-baby tum?

God knows I never lost mine

Good luck!

The tights and the dress worked fine and no-one seemed to guess. I wasn't uncomfortable or over hot either which I think must be a good sign.

All went well. Now just waiting for the next 4 weeks to be over so we can have our first scan ad make our announcements

Glad you managed to keep a lid on things and enjoyed the wedding! We're off to our friend's wedding on Thursday, but I'm having a scan tomorrow, so if it all turns out ok, I'm not so bothered any more if anyone guesses. I'm having to wear a bump band today as I'm struggling with my jeans, but then my tummy is a bit tender cos I've had a bit of a tummy bug ds passed on to me.

Oh and good luck for your scan in 4 weeks.

I remember being like. All of my pregs I get an obvious bump about 6 weeks. I had 3 mcs and bleed alot when preg with both my boys so really didnt want to tell people when I didnt even know what was happening myself and constantly waiting for my next hcg results. Unfortunely I had many people ask if I was, even strangers. I used to just look at them really surprised and say 'how rude' and walk off. Sorry no advice but hope you have a lovely time

Sorry didnt realise you had already been. Glad it all went well. Hope the next four weeks go fast for you