can it get any worse

[starshaker]

Ive recently seperated from my H and was finding life so much better. I met new people couldhave drinks with friends. then i got drunk and slept with my best mate (a guy obviously) i found out yesterday im pregnant and he wont speak to me now. Im now on my own with a 4 year old and a baby on the way. The worst bit is my ex and i tried for a baby for 3 years and nothing happened then a drunken night and im pregnant. things are such a mess

You poor thing. Do you have a supportive family because that will probably help a lot.

my family are crap but i have great friends (1 less now though)i know in the long term ill cope but the situation is crap. If im honest im excited about the baby but not about people finding out

sorry to hear that.

i suppose what you need to think about now is what you want and what is best for you and your 4yr old. if you can cope being a single parent to 2 children.

you can ask via your GP for counselling to decide whether or not to continue with the pregnancy. time is of the essence though

confide in someone in RL. must be hard to feel so alone in this

your so called best friend is behaving like an idiot. presumably he was aware that no condom was being used, so he has no right to not talk to you, he was also involved in getting you pregnant.

i suppose you need to think in terms of what you can manage alone

i will need to manage i could never end this pregnancy. will just need to get on with things. my friends think its great just cos its a new baby in the group and they have a driver at xmas and new year lol. i know if i need them for anything they will be there for me. wonder if i can have 3 birthing partners

yuo actually sound quite positive then.

most hospitals have a 2 birth partner limit though

im up and down i think ive got the baby ive wanted for ages then i remember the situation and i feel shit again. Mumsnet was my rock last time as exH was useless so looks like mumsnet will be there for this 1 2

Obviously your friend is just as responsible for this pregnancy as you are (unless of course you lied and told him you were on contraception which I assume is not the case). I am sure deep down he must realise that he only has himself to blame but for the moment he is probably finding it easier to blame you instead - obviously totally unfair, I imagine he is in just as much or more shock than you and just doesn't know how to deal with the situation. Obviously his reaction is not very mature but all you can do is give him time and hope that, in due course, some dialogue will be possible and you can take things from there.

In the meanwhile you just have to make sure you look after yourself! Sounds like you have wonderful friends. Obviously you will have mixed feelings - happiness and excitement at new baby but also anxiety about how things will pan out, making you worried and anxious. All I can say is that life does not always work out as you expect but it doesn't mean that you should think about having regrets - it is your life so you might as well appreciate all the good and positive things as much as you can, and make the most of all your blessings! I know the path will not be easy but you are a strong and positive person and you sound like you know deep down that you can do this. Wishing you all the best!