When can I tell everyone?

[mummy2b85]

I am 5+4 with my first and can not contain my excitement. We have told our parents and my 2 best friends, it's really early days but i'm bursting to scream it from the roof tops. I know the main reason for not telling anyone is in case the worst happens but if it did i would want my family and friends support. I want to share this happy time with my brother and sister in law in particular and my close friends but surely it'd get out the more people we tell. Should I could keep it contained, tell a select view or just put in on facebook (last one was a joke)

I would love to hear what everyone else did.

I have the best of intentions and then tell everyone anyway.

do whatever you want, if you want to tell then tell there are no rules it's your pregnancy and your life, congratulations btw I only told my family when I was 16 weeks as my mum had just recently died and I didn't feel it was the right time to tell them.

Its totally up to you. With dd I told everyone (or someone else did!) when I was about 7 weeks. Next preg we told my Mum/DPs Mum/cloes family at around 5 weeks - and sadly had mc at 6/7 weeks. Next preg - only told my Mum at about 5 weeks and again had mc. This time we waited til about 9 weeks for mums,and about 11 weeks for everyone else. I'm 17 weeks now and there are still folk who don't know!

oh and ONGRATULATIONS! by the way!!

It is up to you.

We didn't tell until 12wks because we felt we wanted to "grieve" alone if the worst happened (family not that close).

The only thing to remember is that everyone you tell will (potentially) tell someone else so if you are restricting who you tell you risk someone you haven't told finding out from someone else. The more people you tell the greater the risk.

So it depends what you are comfortable with.

I'm a blabbermouth about such things, so first time I told everyone that would listen, random strangers, etc. Then wished I'd discriminated a bit because I had a MC at 7 weeks. Was a bit difficult because I did get the occasional person asking how I was and had to tell them--awkward on both sides.

When I got pregnant again, I decided I would only tell people that I'd also be willing to tell if I had another MC.

I ended up telling everyone at my wedding reception (was 8 weeks pg) because I felt a little ill and couldn't be bothered making excuses as to why I wasn't drinking.

I think it depends what kind of person you are about your privacy generally---I'm happy for people to know, and as I think MC shouldn't be hidden (as sooooo many women have them), I don't mind being open about it. Not everyone will agree.

I told everyone. If I had miscarried I knew I wouldn't be wanting to deal with it alone, or feel unable to show I was sad. There are no rules.

For me there is also the issue of my 2 DS's (6&4). If we tell people it might slip out or get back to them somehow. Don't want them to have to deal with miscarriage at all.

thankyou everyone, Yancock some sound advice, think i'm gonna keep it to close friends and close family