Am I mad to be half thinking about another baby at 45?

[hellymelly]

Can't decide ,am knackered ,breastfeeding dd2 who wakes up a lot,but this is the last chance saloon! Don't know whether to try or to just enjoy the two I have.Anyone in the same boat?

My elder one is four,she is great company and very sparky but the world's most aurgumentative child.Loves pre-war musicals though,which is great as I am never happier than when I'm sitting on the sofa with two tiny girls singing along to Fred Astaire.They love him!

It's your body and life, but yeah, I think you're mad.

Babies become children and then teens, after all!

Plus, there's no denying the risks of health problems and complications goes up.

For sure there will follow from this post a slew of posts about how tons of women have conceived and had babies at 50 with no problems.

But for everyone of those there are many who don't or wind up on the antenatal choices topic.

Hellymelly, you are obviously aware of the increased risks so I'll not harp on about those.
Go for it if that's what you want; as someone else said, 45 year olds can have more energy AND patience than people ten or more years younger. Having a younger husband will help too.
Best of luck in whatever you decide.

you are not mad, well you may be but so am i - i am nearly 43 and would love another, despite all the risks, the health implications, the discomfort of pregnancy, the huge cost, my age, the broken nights, my DHs age...

does the broody feeling EVER go away?

good job my DH is totally opposed to any more babies or we would have a house full

am i mad too?
39 today yeah!! and hopefully pregnant as we speak.
have 12yo dd and 10yo twin dss
no age is any easier or harder than any other - we're at hormone city here
just feel an empty space in our family as does 38yo dh
dgp might feel different but they only 59 and 62

I think what you have to consider is whether you want a baby or a child. If you are happy to have 2 teenagers close together, then go for it. Age is a number and if you feel energetic enough, then great.