any single mom out there?

[pambaby]

i am 14 weeks pregnant and sad to say that the father of this baby didnt want responsiblity, he even asked me to choose between him and the baby, he wanted me to abort the baby, i chose to keep the baby even if i know that i am going to be alone raising this child. it saddens me somehow, because i dont know how i am going to explain to my baby in time he/she asks for his father, an irresponsible man...

i have the full support from my mom and dad and some of my friends who know my situation but still i feel so alone...

Sorry to hear that pambaby.

I was in a similar situation with my first. From finding out I was pregnant I had the following contact:

"Are you getting rid of it?"
"Are you still going through with it?"
"Please don't tell anyone it's mine."
"Don't turn up one day and make a scene."

I hope he never darkens my doorstep ever again. He's not named on the birth certificate, he didn't want to know and doesn't deserve to be her father. If there was ever the slightest inkling that he might give a fuck I would have pursued it, but there wasn't.

I loved being a single mum. I got my lovely DD all to myself, brought her up how I saw fit, no arguments over discipline. Especially great was when she was tiny and I really could sleep when she slept and we got into a routine together without any pressures to cook meals or tidy house.

I was always going to tell her that sometimes people only love each other for a short time, and some daddies know that mummy will love baby enough for two people so they give the baby seed away. This was the young child phase!

When she was 2.5 I met and currently live with a wonderful man who she adores. He'll be adopting her in due course, and we're having another in August.

Good luck with everything.

thank you hawkmoth.

i never expected him to refuse the responsibilities of being a father. i was so inlove with him but now, i dont see myself spending my life with him.

i will try to completely forget him.

i know this is silly but sometimes, i wish that my baby will look more of like me so i could not see his father's face into my baby's face and i wont remember him anymore...

You never know, he may come round in time.

It was never on the cards for my situation. If he could have been relied on to be a regular, not even a frequent, influence on my DD's life I would have left the door open. I did not want her to be constantly let down by someone who was ashamed of her.

FWIW, my DD looks frighteningly like my mother.

if only he's a man enough... haayyyy...

oh well.... i just hope that i can give the best for my baby.

im due on october, pretty excited...

congrats with your second baby!x