Anyone else confused because they HAVEN'T had any hormonal mood swings?! Does this mean I'll be an unemotive Mummy?

[DawnAS]

Just wondering whether I'm going to get a BIG shock and start getting really emotional in the next couple of weeks...

I've only cried three times during this PG... First was when we got a high risk result following a Nuchal Scan test, the second time was when we got a call to say that the CVS they performed (for aforementioned high risk result) hadn't worked and I needed to have an Amnio aswell and the third time was 6 weeks ago when I was diagnosed with Gestational Diabetes.

This is our first child and I am concerned about all the normal things, childbirth, my abilities as a Mother, how I'll cope with our little girl when she arrives, how I'll know what to do with her, etc etc, but I'm just not emotional about it...

DH and I haven't rowed at all and I haven't got weepy... But then I've never suffered from PMT either, could it be related?

Or could all this mean that I might not be very good at showing emotion to my LO when she arrives....

I never got the emotional thing either - i was no more emotional than I was not pg. I will fight to the death for ds, but have only got really emotional when he was dropped on stone steps at three months (yeah - that will do it!). Wouldn't worry personally.

I was incredibly hormonal and weepy when pregnant with DS (crying at work and all sorts of nonsense!) but with DD I wasn't emotional at all - probably cried once in the pregnancy, probably because I was tired. And since she has been here I've been overwhelmed with emotion for her. So I would worry, just be happy you're not an emotional wreck!

I wouldn't worry - thats what I meant to say!

I agree with iwouoldnotgoouttonight - be happy you're not affected in that way too badly! I was hideously emotional with all of my pregnancies and my DH would come home from work to find me sobbing like a wreck most evenings! Pathetic specimen of pregant womanhood, me!

Don't knock it honey! You are who you are and everyone reacts in different ways to pregnancy. You've been through the emotional wringer by the sounds of it. I'd just try and enjoy/get through the last stages of your pregnancy however you feel fit to do it. If you want a damn good cry, then let it all out. If you don't, then don't.

I don't think there is any correlation between being emtional in preg and being a good mother.

A very wise woman once told me that all you have to be is 'a good enough mother'. It's been my mantra. Sometimes I have flashes of genius, but most days I'm just good enough. DD1 and DD2 are lovely girls. DD3 will be a lovely girl too.

I found that my emotions peaked a couple of days after giving birth - 'the baby blues'. Was very teary and unable to keep a lid on my emotions.

Enjoy your DD. However, whenever and forever.

xx

Am pleased to say that my emotions have been very stable throughout my pregnancy and like you only cried at being told of high risk of Edwards Syndrone (which thankfully was false).

Although, at 11 days overdue am now finding that I'm getting very irritable - maybe that's just the waiting around!?

Thanks for all your comments ladies. In early PG I was worried that it meant that something was going wrong (previously had a very early MC at 5 weeks), but as time went on, I realised it couldn't be that.

I still cry when babies are born on TV though or at RSPCA adverts - but did that before I was PG too!!

Good luck with all your LOs!!

xxx

I also haven't been emotional except when well meaning family members have started dolling out unwanted advice - that makes me furious! But I'm sure it would have done before I was pg too.
Still weeping at films but no change there...

At 30 weeks I'm not at all weepy as such, but I'm certainly bloody irritable
At the moment I cannot suffer fools especially at work where I appear to be surrounded by them and I'm not as laid back as I was before being up the duff. I'm thinking this is due to hormones

Glad I'm not the only one, I've been worried about my lack of mood swings / emotions....I've only cried once, when I got made redundant at 14 weeks - but I would have cried at that anyway!! It sounds like you have been coping with quite a lot - maybe you are subconsciously 'saving up' your emotions for all the big stuff?

Hi - i think the fact that you have posted this thread shows that your hormones are working just fine!

This time & last I have not been too emotional (although I am sure DH would say different!)

I do remember crying an awful lot though when my milk came in about 3-5 days after DS was born - just to warn you!

I didn't have any mood swings in my first PG, no cravings, no tears, no nothing (in fact, I didn't know I was PG until I was 22 weeks! ) until a week or so before the birth and that was simply a case of TOTAL TIREDNESS!!!

And I adore my son with all of my heart!!!

This time around, I found out I was PG at 18 weeks (I'm getting better!!!) but still no PG symptoms... but I am sure I'll love this new baby just as much as DS.

Good luck!