Anyone had a successful homebirth for their 1st DC but was too nervous to have one for their 2nd?

[pattymc]

I had a really great waterbirth at home for my DS who is now 21 months but now I'm pregnant with my 2nd and I'm nervous about being at home which is really annoying as I want to be sure about my decision and if there is a slight worry I think I will have to go to hospital - just wondering if anyone else had been in similar situation. I guess I feel like I was lucky that everything went so well and nervous I won't be so lucky again although luck isn't really what it's all about is it?

not quite the same, I had a hospital birth with ds1 (though I had wanted a homebirth), then had a fantastic homebirth with ds2.
planning another for db3 due in June.

I don't feel any more nervous than I did last time I don't think,. and I do think it's normal to worry about it.
I do wonder if it'll be as good next time as my last one was so fantastic, and I don't want to be disappointed I suppose.

do you have any specific worries?

hi thanks thisisyesterday yes I remember thinking at the time of 1st labour that I was a long way from the hospital if I needed to get there (even though I live in london and a few miles from several hospitals). I remember feeling scared just before I got to the pushing stage even though the whole experience was amazing because it was all over in about 4 hours and DS was born in the pool as planned. I am worried that something will go wrong this time - simple as that I suppose but then I guess that's why most people go to the hospital. Just annoyed that I seem to have lost the faith I had last time

i felt like that with all of mine though, even the hospital one. I think it's natural to worry about things going wrong, you just have to keep reassuring yourself I suppose!

when are you due?

hi I'm really sorry it has taken me so long to reply the laptop has been out of action for a week! I'm not due until december so early days for me and I am feeling nervous for this one which I never ever felt for my ds. I agree you just have to remain as positive as possible as so much is out of your hands

I just wanted to add I had a natural birth in hosp with ds1 with a 6 hr discharge and then a planned homebirth with ds2 but I doubted my homebirth choice most of the way through as I knew so many more mums second time round and so many more 'horror' stories, especially as people seem to be naturally cautious of homebirths and would like to tell me how they possibly couldn't do it in case something went wrong. dc3 is due in June and I'm planning to be at home again but have similar doubts, I also think what if its a law of averages, I've had 2 great births, am I due a bad one?
I don't think that helps settle any of your worries but I wanted to say I feel similar.

the great thing about planning for a homebirth is that you can change your mind at anytime, I always maintain if I go into labour and I just need to be in hosp we will go - is that an option untill you know how you feel?
How you feel now and how you feel when actually in labour can be so different (I planned a water birth with ds2, had pool bought and everything, once contrations started I couldn't think of anything worse, I found idea of water really restrictive but I lost nothing by making the water birth plan iykwim)