Who finds comments on your bump/size/shape annoying ?

[Chrysanthamum]

I hate to be a whinge as I'm having a v healthy pregnancy with 3rd baby but I really have to grit my teeth when people feel entitled to make a running commentary on how much I'm blossoming/swelling or whatever. I was on hols for 2 weeks and went back to work today so I suppose I suddenly look v obviously pregnant. Most of the remarks were well intentioned but by the end of the day I was just getting really narked, especially as some of the people hardly know me. I wouldn't dream of commenting on people's shapes so why should people think you'd welcome it when pregnant. I also feel bigger this time at 23 weeks and won't stop eating!

nope, I quite like it :D

i quite like it too but #3 is still a tiny at 5 weeks but already looking pg and starting to hide it! god help me at 39weeks

I am the opposite, I really like it

I too went back to work after two weeks off today... had loads of lovely comments on the hugeness of my bump

Driving me mad...I am simultaneously huge, tiny, just right, blooming, not blooming...aaargh!

I loved it! What could be better than knowing that baby is obviously thriving and growing well.

I can see why some people do like it but personally I too am fed up with the comments like "are you sure there is only one in there" and "I think your due date is way off" and my personal favorite said to me by the man at my local indian last week "are you trying to coax out an overdue baby?" my answer is yes I'm sure there is only 1 after having 4 scans and numerous dopplers (I have had a few complications), yes maybe my due date is slightly off or maybe it has something to do with the amount of cake my baby is making me eat! (not entirely against my will I might add) and finally no I'm not trying to "coax out an overdue baby" I'm only bloody 24 weeks!!! I just want people t leave me alone now, as if I don't feel enough like a whale without the entire world commenting on it!
Sorry for the rant girls

Me!!! I HATED it!!! Found it sooooo intrusive and annoying. In the end I must have given off "sod off" vibes for any comments, positive or negative, because comments sort of dwindled to a few from die-hard thickos who clearly didn't notice my rather unenthusiastic lack of response to their comments.
Like Beccabump, I was looking tired, glowing, tiny, well-rounded, exhausted, full of energy, rosy and pale - all in the same day!!

I didn't mind comments about it although got rather tired of the "wow, it's going to be a huge baby" when I was about 24 wks
but what i did hate was people I hardly knew or didn't know at all, chatting and then reachig out to touch the bump!! Since when is it acceptable to do that? Since you're pregnant it seems! Couldn't stand it. The last time, I actively pushed someone's hand away (gently of course, no massive violence entailed) as I really didn't want to be grabbed just because I had a protruding belly!

I didnt really get any comments with ds but this time I am 22 weeks with twins and find it funny lol.

I was in a cafe with my Mum the other day and nearly gave the server a heart attack when I said I was only 21 weeks lol
I think she was relieved when I said there was 2 lol

I absolutely agree! I have had the problem of people saying I don't look that many weeks and one rather annoying lady who is due about the same time as me said "now you have joined the rest of us and look pregnant". It is upsetting because you start to worry that something might be wrong even though I know not a lot can be gleaned by the size of the bump - I do wish people would just keep these comments to themselves - especially when they come from women who have had children and should know better!

Hello.

I'm 30.5 and have had all the comments you like!!! From "oh lovely bump" to " oh your not that big " My MIL said " oh its a girl- your carrying it all in your behind" My hubby said you trying to say she has a fat bum!!!!!! On the whole its ok- but when its aimed personally- to insult, its not nice!! I developed acne, of the worse kind and have had some horrid comments on that. But people can keep their hands of my bump- unless I know them!! That does my head in. lol xx.
ps it measures 31 weeks-so just right!! lol x

I hate it!! I had people commenting on how I didn't look pregnant, how much more pregnant they looked when they were the same number of weeks than me, (one that really did my head in -->) how I looked more pregnant from the back than from the front- nice , and now I have got people telling me EVERY DAY what a belly I have got, how you can tell I am pregnant more in my face than my belly (what?!!), how I'm piling it on now, how uncomfortable I must be carrying all this weight, how I must be really struggling to find clothes that fit me now.

One that really annoyed me... at about 21 weeks and my aunty was telling me how I had put all the weight on my hips (grin and bear)... at this stage most people were telling me how abnormally small I was/ recoiling in shock when I told them I was 20 weeks pregnant etc etc, so I said to her 'most people are telling me that I look quite small'. She replied with 'that's probably because they were expecting you to get bigger than this, you know with how you put weight on easily'... nice! I wouldn't mind but I am only a size 12, and although I am a bit of a pear, I didn't think I was that bad!! She then went on to tell me that I will prob put loads of weight on my arms too as I have 'quite big arms anyway'... (aparently). Rather an annoying conversation that turned out to be! I really dont know why people feel that they have to comment all the time on how big you look/ how fat your face is/ how big your legs are/ 'dont worry, I am sure you will lose it all once the baby has arrived'... grrrrr, I have only put on a stone god damn it!! People wouldn't say these things usually, so I dont know why they feel they can say it because you are pregnant.

Having a bad day... can't wait to leave work!!!

People are twats around pregnant women.
I had one patient who, every time she saw me, said "you've got a bump!" in this dreadfully screechy fake French accent... so it came out sounding like "buuuueeemp"... oh, I wanted to bitch-slap her every time she said it!! It got to the point where even comments like "ohhh, Dr Jacksmama, you look so beautiful since you've ben pregnant" irritated the blue &#&#!! out of me. Because really, what does that say - I'm an ugly hag the rest of the time???

On behalf of others like me who never really know what to say, and mean it nicely, could I just say sorry? I've done this loads without realising how tedious it could be on the other end. Is my fall-back (when being particularly inarticulate) "Hey look at you!" also enough to earn me a mental slap? I will try harder to avoid, but sometimes it feels rude not to somehow indicate you've noticed.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who gets miffed.
I haven't even dared weigh myself but this week I cant seem to eat as much at one sitting so maybe thats good. People are probably just making conversation but why not just say congrats/you're looking well (lie even) or say nothing. I'm just 23 weeks and feel v big n clumsy already, I dont need it pointed out! Someone yelled across the canteen 2 day "oh look at you..was it planned?" I've vowed not to take anything personally anymore.

Oh, the "was it planned" question - if there was anything else that made me want to choke stupid people with barbed wire when I was pregnant, it was those asinine comments or questions such as "was it an accident or were you trying?".

GAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!

How the blue f*ck is that anyone's business??????????

A friend of mine said that to me, "oh, I didn't know you were trying!" The look I gave her!! My answer "I didn't realize I needed to discuss my sex life or fertility with you" obviously let her know she overstepped. But how dare mere acquaintances or random strangers ask such a thing!! FFS!!!!!!

Me too - very annoying although my personal favourite from someone at work who I don't know very well said "Wow you've really put weight on in the face haven't you"

WTF? Wish I had said "Yes but I'm pg, what's your excuse?"

TBH, I don't mind general bump comments but people telling me I am HUGE I hate. I feel quite porky anyway and don't need reminding of it!