Alone or with DP/H for early dating scan? Not sure how I feel.

[EffieGadsby]

I realised two days ago that I seem to be about 6 weeks pregnant, but because I have wildly erratic cycles, my GP said this morning that I should go and have an early dating scan. She also said that if I go next week, it's pretty likely it will be developed enough to hear the heartbeat.

I am in two minds about whether to go alone. If the embryo is working out as it should, then it would be a pity for DP to miss hearing a little heart and seeing the little shrimp. On the other hand, I feel bad about him having to take a half day of annual leave to come. He wants to go, I don't know. Oh dear, I can't stop crying; I am so stupidly emotional today.

So, if you had one of these very early scans, did you go it alone or with DP/H, and what do you wish you had done?

DP was there, and I'm glad he was - it was definitely the moment things seemed real.
Depending on a few things, there may not be a heartbeat, but don't let that worry you (wasn't at my first one, which was around six weeks, just a little in utero blob with fetal pole visible - we had another the following week at which we could see/hear the HB).
The decision is yours, but I wouldn't say that losing annual leave was a good reason for him not to be there, especially if he wants to be.

sorry, badly put - i meant that even if all is well, a heartbeat may not be detectable.
congratulations btw!

If he wants to go, let him go. You'll be glad of the company

DH has come to everything with me, very glad of this as my mental health is shite ATM and he is able to speak up for me when I start crying (which is at just about everything).

He's come to a few early scans with me as we had a miscarriage in September, then another pregnancy a few months later. I would have hated to be there alone.

Definately take him, As the dad doesnt go through the physical side of pregnancy its nice for them to be at the scan.

DP came to all scans with DS and I am glad he was there with 2nd pregnancy as we discovered it was twins and dont think he would have believed me if he hadnt seen it himself lol

Congratulations and enjoy the scan x

Take him. My DH has been at all of my scans (even the first one, which was like yours, very early and didn't actually see a heartbeat until the next week, I'm now 30 weeks) and seeing that heartbeat really made it real for him.

I would take him

Taking half a day's leave to get the first glimpse of your baby is not much of a sacrifice. I would take him and be pleased that he wants to be so involved.

I don't want to be overly grim here, but if you don't get the result you're hoping for, it is much nicer weeping all over DH than the ultrasound tech.

Of course, if you DO get the hoped-for result, it's STILL nicer weeping all over DH than the ultrasound tech...

Okay, I'm convinced that he can come. For some reason, I just have this pathetic little feeling that I don't want to be any sort of burden to him. This is extremely out of character for me I would usually have no qualms about burdening him whatsoever. I blame the wretched hormones...

Also, because I can't let myself be too optimistic yet, I do rather feel at the moment that if it's bad news, I want to be able to digest this by myself. However, if it actually were to come to that, I would rather have DP there so we can support one another.