Should I purchase a doppler for my daughter who has has previous complications?

[catchya]

Hi there I have just found these forums and I find them helpful and interesting. My daughter is 9 weeks 4 days pregnant. Her weekly visit is today and she has had weekly scans. She has had previous miscarriages and early spotting with this pregnancy. She seems more relieved that all is well after a scan and hearing the heartbeat. Is this a good idea or will it add to her stress? Apreciate your opinions.

I, personally, will not use one, as I think they just add to the stress if you cannot find the heartbeat. And at 9 weeks, she is going to have a very hard time finding the heartbeat.

If she is having weekly scans (and lucky her!!) then I see no reason for a Doppler.

i had one after previous m/c and i found it really helped,

you can hire them on line you about £10 a month

agree about the early days though, i was 12 weeks before i heard anything,

wishing your dd well, pg after m/c is very hard

I had a previous miscarriage but am now 17 weeks pregnant. I found that the first trimester was a time of anxiety and worry but once I got to 12 or 13 weeks I started to feel much more positive and confident. Hopefully your daughter will be similar. It is difficult to know whether a doppler will help ease her anxiety or increase her focus on worrying about the baby and the pregnancy. Perhaps it would be best to discuss it with her?

Hi and thankyou for the input. Well today my daughter had another scan with another scheduled for next week. It was the most emotional we have been as this is the furtherest she has ever made it 9 weeks 5 days and the scan showed in detail. A little peanut moving around limbs formed and movement. I cant begin to tell you the instant relief and total joy on her face. She is a little more settled and hopefully next weeks experience will be just as exiting. Imagine me sitting there tears rolling down my face. I just cant beleive it. I dont think the doppler will be such a good idea as luckily with her past m/c weekly scans will be offered as part of her treatment plan. Thanks for letting me share.

Catchya I got a doppler around 15 weeks (when it does get easier to find the heartbeat) and found it a great comfort, but it's not for everyone (as has been stated already). It's great news that your daughter is past the dreaded "8 weeks" - after this time the statistics leap up to 98% of babies surviving.

If she wants any support from women in the same position then this link here is a thread for women who are pregnant after miscarriage and offers a lot of support and answers to questions. I've found it invaluable. She would be very welcome (particularly as it's somewhere you can express all the silly fears that you don't feel able to share in real life)

Thankyou crunchie I appreciate your help and in a couple of days I think I will approach the subject as today before appointment she told me she is not coping at all emotionally and wondered if I thought it would be a good idea to have councelling of some type. I was going to ring around to find out what options there are for her. Im sure there are more fears there than what she can discuss with all of us. It may be just what she needs.

She would be very welcome - there's women at all stages of pregnancy on there and there's always someone to reassure you or just offer an ear.

It is such a tough time and very difficult to understand (even when you're the one going through it). It's an emotional rollercoaster at a time when the world thinks you should be happy and blooming. And it's hard not to judge yourself for not feeling the way everyone else does, or for trying to distance yourself, or for feeling scared or angry.

It sounds like she's got good support in you, but it's always good to hear from people going through the same things too