Sex during Pregnancy, is it safe if you......

[Tiaxx31]

Is it safe to have sex with your patrner during pregnancy if you have previously had threatend miscarages on both pregnancies some time ago. I don't want to do anything to cause harm or even loose my baby but my partner seems to be pretty gutted when i told him as i did read it some where that i wouldn't be able to. AT ALL during the pregnancy. Does anyone know for sure or should i wait and ask the doctor when i see her in 3 weeks?

How many weeks are you?

i am only about 7 weeks i think, i have my appointmet to see doctor/maternity ward for a scan in 3 weeks to find out how far gone as nobody has done this yet

I think it's a no-no for the first 12 weeks in those instances not the whole pregnancy. However I've never had this type of warning so really don't know for sure.

I don't know WRT the warning from your previous pregnancies at the relevance to this one. I would wait until you see your doctor TBH, best err on the side of caution I think.

I have been told by my ob's that I am not to have full penetrative sex at all in this pregnancy as I have had bleeding on and off from 11 weeks I am now 26+3.

you are usually supposed to wait until at least 12 weeks, and then ask for advice re your personal situation.

Most first trimester miscarriages are the result of chromosomal difficulties which are in situ from the moment of conception. Very, very rarely does anything the mother do make any difference to the outcome.

I think doctors sometimes tell patients with a history of miscarriage not to have sex because if the woman goes on to miscarry after sex the woman may feel responsible in some way, (even though she has no reason to do so).

If the woman is bleeding however, and a miscarriage is threatened, I guess doctors may recommend no sex because there may be a possibility that it might lead to infection if the cervix opens.

I'm not a medic by the way, but I have had a number of miscarriages and have read quite a lot about them.

I imagine nothing really will convince you either way until you talk to your doctor. Until then, I'd just do what feels right for you.

Hope this pregnancy goes smoothly for you.