I want another baby but I'm too old, we're too broke and the house is too small .

[PuffTheMagicDragon]

Just needed to get that off my chest.

Ta for reading.

Yep, have to agree that 40 is no age to be claiming 'too old'. 5 was 43 whan I had DS.
Have to admit that it feels as if we have committed ourselves to economising until a parsimonious retirement, though! I thought that you generally spent like mad in your 20's, spent it sensibly on kids in your 30's and then entered a phase of panic pension buying in your 40's before retiring to the coast with a G&T. Late kids blow that plan!

Hurrah, Puff! Looking forward to news of BFP

Oh go for it Puff, sounds like you want to!

not quite as old as you, but i thought the same, and didnt want to regret 'not trying' in 10 years time! So we said we would give it a go, and caught first time. life is chaotic with 3. I felt naughty because noone else in our family has 3, if you know what I mean. But life is great- 2 share a bedroom,and the older has his own, but they all fit in the car, so no problem really! and you'll always find something else to spend money on even if you didnt have another!

Totally agree with Blu re finances. I want both my boys to become high earning plumbers so they can both keep us in our old age and fix the leaky pipes. We used to have money to save!! Seems like a lifetimne ago.

Puff - I have just turned forty hence the feeling old, and I am feeling very broody and so is my dh. Like you I think i'm too old, not enough money, not enough energy, not enough room in the house. I'm wondering of it's just cos i've hit 40 and i want to feel young or do i really want a baby (my problem is i had to have fertility treatment to have my dd and ds so having another one could take a long time) and i am thinking do i want to be 42 and pregnant?
Sorry I am so confused you probably can not understand a word of this.
I say if it is really what you want you will manage, we always do, so go for it before it is too late and you regret it, but that's just my opinion. Good luck.

ha too old my armpit!

I started having babies when I was 40

Go for it!! things will work out

Old????? How DARE you!

is it harder when your older ,body wise to have more do you think, as well as the energy factor. did everyone find it harder?

Bambi - don't know if it was harder, didn't have kids when I was younger so can't compare! But IMO you can be old at 28 and young at 40 - it's just a question of trying to keep yourself relatively fit and having a positive outlook on life. And on the good side - us oldies tend to do less clubbing anyway, so we are quite happy to sit in front of the telly with a glass of wine after the little ones are in bed (sorry if I'm generalising and upsetting any geriatric ravers !) I personally don't try to do so much mad stuff like going to endless mums and toddlers and play schemes - find those really tiring. Lying on the living room floor letting your toddler crawl all over you is just as much fun and you don't have to leave the house!

I feel fine.

Puff - we had 3 children in one bedroom when i became pregnant with no.4. We were going to extend but couldn't get planning permission. House across the road went up for sale - we bought it and got rid of debt with new mortgage that had monthly repayments similar to what we already had. Got a second hand 7 seater car. Still broke but happy. Just go for it

Puff
You are preaching to the choir here. I'm in my mid-thirties, we don't even own our own place much less live in a house, and we're in debt. And I'm pregnant. Sod it.

I also feel fat, am quesy, can't remember FA, and have sore boobs.

As tigermoth pointed out v eloquently on another thread, having smaller kids around keeps you much younger in spirit than your contemporaries who don't have them. So even if your body is on its knees by the end of the day (and it will be, some days!) your spirit will be unfettered.

(NB I have been drinking but still, tis true and very worthwhile )

ooh what a heartwarming thread! what mn is for! i'm aprehensively expecting our 3rd and we're always broke and our house is too small but this has made me feel so much better! Thank you!

As for the age thing, my friend never thought her and her dh would have kids, but she started trying at 39 and now, 10 yrs later, has 3 girls age 9,6 and 4!

Oh lordy me, this thread gave me a weird dream last night. I dreamt it was dh's birthday (it really is his birthday tomorrow!) and that he said to me that he thought that we ought to have eight children, four for him and four for me! Four is enough, maybe even six, but eight??

seudonim .

Lots of v interesting comments on here.

I'm still mulling this over - especially the "why" am I feeling like this?

I think I need to get my 40th birthday out of the way and see if my brain calms down a bit!

I think a big part of it is I'm really missing ds2's babyhood - he's a toddler now and I miss snuggling a baby , plus all the snuffly noises they make (in between howling!). I feel a bit of a donut about it all really .

are you not making like a rabbit yet puff? C'mon hun, pull yer finger out!

I'm dithering!

stop the dithering and get boinking!