Irrationally worried about 12 week scan, please reassure me!

[beanstalk]

I feel so silly and can't even admit this to DH but I have my scan tomorrow and I am panicking that there is something wrong. I don't know why, I have one beautiful and healthy DD and god knows I have had all the pg symptoms going. So why do I have this absolute dread that something will be wrong? I am actually in tears, it is so irrational as I have no reason to think this, and to some extent I know that what will be, will be. I am analyzing all my symptoms like a loon, I feel less sick than say a week ago, my boobs feel less sore, etc etc.

Please help me calm down and get some perspective?

Hi Beanstalk it is completely natural to worry. It is your brain's way of helping you cope should anything actually be wrong. There are of course no guarantees either way. It is the not knowing that is causing you stress. I know it is hard but try to keep calm and relaxed and tomorrow will come soon. Try to distract yourself if you can. I have been the same in the past and I am now 5 weeks pregnant so will be the same again soon I am sure. Pregnancy is one big worry! I will keep my fingers crossed for you Feeling less sick is probably a sign that you are entering the best part of pregnancy: the energetic nice bit in the middle! And anyway a reduced feeling of sickness is not necessarily a sign things have gone wrong. I've had two MCs and felt most sick with the second one, more sick than I felt with my lovely healthy DS1.

You are allowed to be a bit of a loon when you are pregnant.
I dare say you're being sensible not to be complacent, the 12 week scan is one of the big hurdles in pregnancy.

Fact: "95% or more women have 12 week scans that go fine."

Maybe repeat that to yourself like a meditative mantra, make yourself say it out loud 100 times in the next 15 minutes.

Beanstalk, sorry, I've no advice for you, because I feel EXACTLY the same as you.
I have a nine week viability scan on Thursday (due to last two pgs ending in mc) and am sick with worry that this is going to go the same way. I'm analysing every twinge and slight cramp.
My only hope is that with all mcs (3 in total) I have had bleeding. But of course that's not to say this one will be viable without the bleeding.
The very best of luck; you've only got one more day of worry left.

Thank you all for your kind words. I feel bad because I have done nothing but moan about how awful I have been feeling and now that the sickness etc is subsiding I am panicking that something is wrong. There's no pleasing me really! I hope that as you say Becky, the reducing sickness is because I've reached 12 weeks and things are starting to settle.
lljkk - Thank you for that fact, I will hang on to that to keep me calm!
Gateau - I am so sorry to hear about your previous mcs. No negative signs this time must be positive though? It's just so hard to focus on anything else when you feel so anxious though isn't it? I shall keep my fingers crossed for you on Thursday.

Same for you; thank you.

I nearly posted the exact same post yesterday!
I was even up at 2am because I was unable to get back to sleep.
Just got back from my 12 week scan now and everything was fine, as yours is very likely to be tomorrow. Sorry haven't got any advice because I know nothing anyone would have said yesterday would have reassured me...but no reason for you to feel silly at all.

Beanstalk - it sounds perfectly normal to me. I was so stressed just before ds2's 12 week scan it was unreal. Far worse than i had been with ds1. I didn't sleep the night before and on the way to the scan i had to tell dh to not even talk to me because i just couldn't handle having to think about or concentrate on anything else without exploding. Agree with Becky, it's the not knowing.

Congratulations MsBrandybuck, you must feel relieved! I feel better just getting it off my chest to be honest, its hard when it just keeps going round your head. I know I'll probably be up at 2am too but at least its first thing in the morning tomorrow.

Thanks beanstalk With previous scans I have found one of the worst bits was the waiting around with a full bladder. It made a huge difference being straight in at 9.15 this morning so hope yours goes as smoothly.

Just want to wish you luck for tomorrow.

Beanstalk -

I think its totally normal to be nervous before a scan.

We get scans at 29 weeks and 36 weeks in my area - we had the 29 week one quite recently and I even managed to get v anxious about it even though baby was thumping and kicking me all morning and clearly in rude health!

Hi Beanstalk, this was me literally a couple of weeks ago. I posted here in a state of extreme panic, I hadn't slept, couldn't eat and like you was in floods of tears as I was convinced that there would be something wrong and the baby wouldn't be alive. When I went for the scan and saw my little one waving arms and legs and clearly alive and well I couldn't even cry in relief as I was in such a state of shock! Hang in there, only one more night to go and you will see your beautiful little bubba looking right out at you.

Thank you everyone!

Hangingbellyofbabylon - how are you feeling now? I remember you were suffering with sickness like I was, has it improved? Glad your scan went well.

Well I haven't been sick for a week now (apart from yesterday but it did involve scraping dog poo off dd's shoe ) - but I still feel quite sick most days and can't really face cooking or eating dinner most nights. Could live on jam toast but dh makes me eat vaguely decent stuff! The scan did put my mind at ease and I am trying to give this one a break and actually believe in him/her. I'm looking forward to hearing about your scan tomorrow.

So I had the scan this morning and there was my little baby, arms, legs and crucially heartbeat! Phew!! It was lovely, I realised how much I have been distancing myself from actually thinking about a baby, if that makes sense. I was almost surprised to see a baby there, as I think I hadn't been associating the symptoms with actually having a baby.
I have to wait up to a week for the results of the nuchal scan and blood test, so now that is the next thing for me to be anxious about. DH is just sighing and shaking his head at me worrying so much, I was so much more relaxed with my last pregnancy.

Anyway, just wanted to say thanks to everyone for your support yesterday.

And good luck for tomorrow, Gateau.

yay! wonderful news, I'm so pleased for you. Now fingers crossed for the results as well. xx

Hi Beanstalk so pleased for you