34 weeks - Is this lightening or have my waters broken?

[YouKnowNothingoftheCrunch]

Had a very small gush of "something" last night. Either very watery discharge or waters - I don't know.

Baby now feels very, well, small compared to what she was.

I am 34 weeks today, 3rd pregnancy (I should know better), and ds2 didn't engage until labour.

I'm on my own with the dcs (DH moved out a couple of weeks ago) and really quite anxious. Starting to panic myself that something might be wrong with baby. She is kicking.

Hello
it could be your waters...if in doubt phone the midwife at least they may be able to help ease your mind.
You poor thing, sounds like you are going through the wars!

Hope you ok

Crunch,
Please phone hospital.
I had this at 36 weeks and they thought my hind-waters had ruptured. They took me in and did a trace/internal but everything was fine.
Please get checked out...you've got enough on your plate without having to worry even more.
Look after yourself.

Thanks MsBump it certainly feels like it this morning.

Rationally I'm sure it's all fine, but I don't think my rational brain has kicked in yet.

Hello Sparkly. I just really don't fancy dragging the dcs on an hour's round trip (local, tiny hospital closed at weekends ) if I don't have to.

Your advice is thoroughly sensible though I'm just being stupid.

Can you get the MW to come to you? Just give her a call to find out, please?!

I don't know. I don't think I'm quite thinking straight...

Any news? Did you phone or have you had anymore leakage?
It's only just occured to me that we spoke months and months a go when you had just found out you were pregnant and were about to start a teacher training course. I was pregnant at the time too but m/c. Did you start the course?

Hi Sparkly - so we did! I did start, but decided to put it off after a couple of months in the school. It was all going well but H was finding it hard and the financial constraints were too much, so I've put it off for now.

No more leakage and didn't phone. Baby's still very active.

H came round and we talked. Sadly unproductively as he revealed more lies and broken promises

I'm seeing MW on Monday, but will call if there's any more, I promise.

Thanks for being there (again)

Please call them, my waters broke at 31 weeks and it was just a small gush initially. If they have broken, they need to see you straight away to monitor for infection and possibly even give steroids.

Not trying to scare you, it may be all ok, but it's best to be on the safe side and find out for sure.

Please fone someone... it will do no harm, and will put our your mind at rest. Hopefully a midwife may be able to come to you.

Just in case?

I think you should phonethe midwife, if it was your waters and you leave it till monday that is plenty of time for an infection to develop. Most hospitals want to induce labours were the waters were ruptured for 48hrs or more.
Also check your temperature regularly.

Definitely phone at least

Crunch - Maybe you could do with some time away from him as he's upsetting you all the time. When is the next relate session? Did you sleep well? Anymore fluid?

No more fluid. No more sleep either.

I wish I could get away but I have to stay for ds1's school. I've got no close friends here and I'm really struggling this week.

I just want to run and hide from it all

Poor you . Could you plan to go somewhere next weekend? That'll give you something to look forward to.xx

Certainly planning on having a better week than this weekend. Thanks for all your support Sparkly. I'll see MW tomorrow and see where we go from there.

I knew I'd have good days and bad days I just didn't think H would be actively making things worse. It's very confusing as he begs to come home and says he loves me, but then with the next breath is nasty and deceitful.

None of it makes any rational sense and I'm left dealing with all the consequences

I just hope baby is ok. When I'm focused on her and the boys I can cope, but he keeps dragging me back in to his petty little mindgames. He is not the important one here. He is way down the list, but he's demanding all the attention and my energy and it's not fair.

You know in your head what you have to do and you now know that you can survive without him. Don't let him play his stupid games....
Hope all goes well tomorrow with the m/w. Chin up missy - you're very strong and you know you can get through this.