20 week scan 2moz do i find out the sex????

[mylilmiracle]

Hi all,

im having my 20 week scan tommorow this is my 1st baby and i dont no whether to find out the sex, my partner doesnt want to find out but im in to minds......what would you do??

Don't! It is the best surprise and most beautiful thing ever to find out on the day you meet your baby

Suprise

Find out. The surprise is the same whether you hear it tomorrow or 4 months from now.

The difference is that if you know the sex, you can already start calling your baby a name and think of him as a person.

I think it depends if you have a preference. We don't so we didn't!

I didn't with either of mine.

It made no difference whether we had a boy or a girl and the surprise at the end is more than worth the 20 weeks waiting!

Also remember that whatever they tell you is never 100% How would you feel if they told you one and you got the other? You'd probably have chosen names, decorated the nursery, bought clothes, pram etc for one sex and then would have the other......

Agree with lockets. The feeling you get after your baby is born is incredible and knowing the sex doesn't make it any less special or wonderful! I knew with ds and I couldn't possibly have felt anymore amazing when he popped out. Its just as exciting to find out at the scan, and its just as much of a surprise.

Its not 'better' to do it either way, its a very personal thing, just go with your gut feeling. I think your partners feelings play a big part here though- if he is really against it it seems a bit unfair to find out if he doesn't want too. After all you are going to find out one day and it might be better to wait another few months to know and make him happy if you are in two minds! Good luck with the scan

Thankyou all for the messages, i will let you no what we do tommorow

Surprise suprise suprise.

It makes the final weeks of pregnancy hell more exciting with anticipation/ guessing. I now am SOOO glad I didnt find out like everyone else seemed to.

Don't do it - buck the trend!!

I can't believe the MAJORITY of women want to know - WHY?????????

I found out with dd, because I really wanted a girl , which I know now to be a little silly of me. We are about to start ttc #2, and I wouldn't find out next time.

Not because I think it would take anything away from the experience if I did know, but because I really want to experience the surprise this time. If we're lucky enough to conceive.

As I said to the ultrasonographer when expecting dd2, it shouldn't be too much of a surprise.

There are so few surprises left in life, that I wouldn't. I have 3 and didn't find out for any of them (remarkable in the case of dd2 since I had scans every 2 weeks from weeks 20 to 40).

I'm hoping for a pony or a puppy this time.

How many times can I get the word 'experience' into one sentence?

I'm glad that I found out tbh, it's made me understand the baby's personality better (well assuming what I was told is correct!)

I just find it a bit more practical to know in advance. Choosing one name was difficult enough, if we had had to pick a girls name and a boys name it would have been even more difficult.

However, having found out the sex I then chose not to tell anyone else, I just consider it to be private information. I get a lot of ridicule for this, even from my own dh, and wish I was better at lying so I could just tell people we hadn't found out.

I have my scan in 12 days and I definitely want to find out like I did with the other two. I just feel I can bond more when I know what it is. I feel in a kind of limbo until I know the sex. We will pay for 4D just to establish the sex if the NHS can't tell us.

(Morning MrsJoe x )

i had 20 week scan yesterday and found out. very glad i did as the baby sex was totally not what we thought-i couldnt have handled that kind of suprise on the day!

Morning dahling. Have booked our tickets for Baby Loves Disco.

As you were.

Good point Lydia, I am convinced that this one is a boy and I think if I girl appeared over the C section curtain I would be stunned. Not that I am bothered about whether it is a boy or a girl, I just don't like suprises.

part of me still doesnt believe it but its hard not to after clearly being shown the meat and two veg! i have half a pink cardi and got all of dds old baby clothes out, looks like we'll be starting from scratch!

I had a 4d scan because I didn't believe dd was a girl. I still wasn't entirely convinced, and the first question I asked when she was delivered was, "It is a girl, isn't it?"

I was terribly worried about my pink curtains.

duchesse - I'm expecting no3 and haven't found out for any of them for exactly same reason... personally I'm hoping for a giaffe as they are usually up on their feet and feeding by themselves in about an hour

Everyone's different, so you just need to go with your instinct.

Both me and DH were desperate to find out as soon as we could! For me I've found it's really helped - I feel really bonded with my daughter already, she already has a name by which we call her and she's already a little person who I'm getting to know.

I am naturally an impatient person who has found that pregnancy really drags and finding out has really made a difference somehow.

However when we found out we did also know in advance that in our area we would also get scans at 28 and 36 weeks, and so we knew there would be other opportunities to check that the sonographers got it right. Had the 28 week scan yesterday and at that stage there's little room for doubt provided you can get a good angle on it!

I guess we might have felt differntly about finding out if we had known we would only get one shot at it at the 20 week scan ...

hi all,
just to let you no we found out and im really glad we did now
were having a little girl.....