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scan this morning but feeling sick with worry

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Hangingbellyofbabylon · 05/03/2009 09:13

I have my 12 week scan today and am sick with worry, I had 2 different dreams last night that the baby was dead. If that is the case my whole world will fall apart. At least by lunchtime I will know. Positive vibes this way please.

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LucyEllensmummy · 05/03/2009 09:40

oh, how worrying for you - but you know that your dreams have no power over real life - they just reflect your fears. I can't sit here and say 100% that everything will be fine, but you have no reason to think it wouldn't be, just the same as any other women watching the clock because her bladder is about to give out! HAving a scan is anxiety provoking, but of course once you have ths scan - its lovely to see your baby on the screen.

Will be thinking of you and sending lots of positivity xxxx

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Hangingbellyofbabylon · 05/03/2009 09:45

Thank you, I know it's irrational as have no reason to think it won't be ok. I had two early miscarriages and also have two lovely girls so chances are this one will be fine but I've got myself so worked up that I'm close to a panic attack now. Part of it is because I don't have anyone to look after dd2 who is nearly 3 and I'm worried that if something is wrong I will get upset and scare her. Just have to hang in there till 11.15. Off now to put on some make-up and brush hair etc so at least I feel half-human!.

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sammysam · 05/03/2009 09:45

Sending loads and loads of positive vibes!
I have my 12wk scan in under 2wks and i am so so scared. Didn't know about mumsnet with dd-and actually think that was a very good thing in these first 12wks. I've read so many bad stories, and also since dd I have had friends having mmc-I am terrified!

I really hope it goes well-just think how good it will feel seing everything ok

It is crazy what your brain does to you when pg.

GOOD LUCK! Please think positive thoughts for me on the 17th

wasabipeanut · 05/03/2009 09:48

Hangingbelly you were lovely to me when I had my mc and now its my turn.

You know deep down that you have no reason to worry and that all is well with your bean. In a couple of hours you are going to be having a little cry with relief and happiness because you have seen your LO jumping around on screen.

Good luck

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Hangingbellyofbabylon · 05/03/2009 09:52

Sammysam I think you're right, until mumsnet I only ever heard of one person who got to the 12 week scan to discover that the baby had died, most people I know miscarried naturally early on around 6 weeks. Here there seems to be so many people getting to 12+ weeks then finding out that there is a problem, so heart-breaking and I do really feel for them. But agree I should probably stop reading about all these things as I have now worked myself up to a frenzy.

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Hangingbellyofbabylon · 05/03/2009 09:53

Wasabi you are such a sweetheart to think of me this morning, I feel guilty that this one might make it when so many out there have been through heartache.

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mersmam · 05/03/2009 09:55

I'm on my 4th pregnancy and still always get terrified before scans - it's natural!
If something was wrong it's highly likely you'd have had some sign of it by 12 weeks.
Sending lots of positive vibes - you'll be fine!

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Hangingbellyofbabylon · 05/03/2009 09:56

ok, think I've been through the worst of the panic attack,now off to try and make myself look presentable.

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muffle · 05/03/2009 10:02

Good luck belly! I think dreams like that are normal and just an expression of your anxieties, not reality. And you have especially intense dreams when pg. I dreamed I gave birth to a frog! Did it come true? Nope!

Fingers crossed for you today.

wasabipeanut · 05/03/2009 11:12

NEVER feel guilty. Some aren't destined to make it - 'tis life sadly. Where there is life there is risk.

But this one IS destined to make it I'm sure and I am very much looking forward to seeing your news soon! x

smilesarefree · 05/03/2009 11:39

Just read your post and had to send lots of positive vibes your way. I'm sure by now you'll have a lovely baby photo in your hands. As my old mum used to say - dreams are contrary

toomuchpicknmix · 05/03/2009 11:44

you are probably in the scan now and am sending lots of good vibes to you.
When I had my 12 week I was so worried (previous trisomy 18 baby) that they said my breathing was interfering with their view! And it was OK. Am 29 weeks today.

sammysam · 05/03/2009 11:52

still thinking positive thoughts x x x

psychomum5 · 05/03/2009 11:56

oh, hangingbelly.

tis probably all just worry manifesting as bad dreams rather then some ominous premonition. hormones do horrid horrid thing when pregnant, I remember well.

thinking of you lots

brettgirl2 · 05/03/2009 12:16

How did it go? Before my 12 week scan I had a dream that my baby had two noses...

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Hangingbellyofbabylon · 05/03/2009 13:39

I'm back and pleased to say that the baby looked beautiful, it was incredible. I've never had a 12 week scan before, only really early ones or the 20 week one and had no idea what to expect. It was amazing seeing little arms and legs waving around. Thank you all so much for your support and I'm sorry for all of my flapping this morning.

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brettgirl2 · 05/03/2009 13:42

Yay!!! I think everyone's scared about their 12 week scan

smilesarefree · 05/03/2009 13:43

Oh that's wonderful news!!! How lovely for you - hope you got a scan pic to take home

toomuchpicknmix · 05/03/2009 15:15

YAY!! great news have a lovely evening!

psychomum5 · 05/03/2009 15:46

oh I AM pleased

now, go have a relaxing evening with a huge happy grin!

LucyEllensmummy · 05/03/2009 19:03

brilliant news Glad you were able to enjoy the scan - it really blows you away doesn't it.

wasabipeanut · 05/03/2009 21:19

Oh thats fabulous news! Really happy for you

They do look beautiful at the 12 and 20 week scans just floating around serenely.

sammysam · 06/03/2009 08:06

I'm so pleased and happy for you! And a bit -I just want to fast forward to the 17th and feel the same Congratulations and good luck and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy! x

robberbutton · 06/03/2009 22:08

Oh hangingbelly, congratulations! I'm so pleased for you. I'm in the same position - had a mc in November and due my 12 week scan on the 18th March, and am absolutely sick with worry. Have been on mumsnet for the last 2 hours reading horror stories - very bad. sammysam here's fingers crossed for both of us!

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