Grr, annoying comments - DH's family

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Hi all

Am I being oversensitive or is this quite normal. When told I was pregnant again my MIL said 'Oh your tubes must be well clear by now then'. I think it's vile. DH said I'm reading too much into it. I have had a healthy baby previously and had distant problems - not 'tube related'. What do you make of it?

Ergh. Maybe she meant that it was a 'suitable space' between babies. I suppose, I think, not sure what else she could have meant... Lovely expression though

When DH and I got married I was 35, he was 27 (toyboy). FILs wife said to me 'you'd better start thinking about having a family quickly because you'll be barren soon

My step MIL said to me at 13 weeks pg - 'oooo, it's going to be a big one then' . This coming from a woman that is size 18/20 and has NEVER had kids. I'm a size 8/10 and this is DC3.....of course I'm not going to have a flst tummy. Grrrrr. Almost walloped her one as well when she insisted on rubbing my bump. Ugh. HATE it when people do that. I don't sqeeze your tits, so keep your hands off my bump.

Can you tell I'm still wound up about it?!

Not to mention my dear old dad who thought it would be great wheeze to take the piss out of my jelly belly 24 hours after I'd given birth to DD2 by telling me I still looked like a whale. Hmmmm, just as well we're related.

Oh, and mum of one of DD1's gym buddies who very pointedly asked me 'who'd eaten all the pies' whilst looking at my belly. Um, I'm 20 weks pg, where am I going to hide a pg belly?

I just don't understand why some people feel it's ok to make snide, rude, insensitive comments to pg women. It's not like we don't have enough pressure to look amazing when pg in any case....

I'd have said 'don't know about the pies love but I know which bulldog's licked the piss off a nettle'

lmao at that last comment iklboo told my DP and he said i should all these "come backs" in a book and learn them off by heart for when some one starts annoying me with they're tactless insults !!

Maybe thats the next MN project

THe MN Book of Comebacks

In which case you need the fabulous
"Don't let the door hit your arse on your way out"

rofl we def need to start a book!!!!!!!

maybe we should all make signs to hang around our necks "you can look but you cant touch!!!!!!!!"

God. DP's mum always has to say (we see them every few weeks) "Ooooh, you're getting bigger".
"Well, yeah", is the usual deadpan response.
"Are you getting fat yet?" is another of her faves.
No, my abdomen is expanding as I have another human being growing in it.

Have had 3 mc in past 2 years. PIL went on holiday in early stages of current pg and on return, MIL phoned to let us know they were back and enquires " are you still in tact?". Nice. Lovely way of putting it.

At my husband's PhD graduation as we toasted him for his success, my MIL started saying instead - 'Toast the baby, toast the baby'. She had been told we were trying but not that I was actually pregnant or that there was anything to toast. Given the risks of infertility and miscarriage I thought that toasting a baby not yet conceived was utterly tactless and inappropriate.

About 6 weeks after ds1 was born, my husband's grandmother came round and she said something along the lines, 'you're quite a bit bigger than you were'. 6 weeks after giving birth - yes, you generally do still look a bit bigger!

Grrrr

Just before i miscarried my 1st baby I told my mum I thought something was wrong & she said 'Don't be silly women in our family don't have miscarriages!'people just do not engage their brains b4 their mouths.

When we told my PIL's I was pregnant, MIL turned to DH and said "What a clever boy!". Obviously I had nothing to do with it...

And if you're fed up with un-invited bump touchers you need one of these

My favourite response to people who touch my belly is to rub theirs in return - you should see their faces!

Cool T-shirt. Will not spend money on one though, will make my own!

Already been mauled there... and it was about ten inches from where the little baby ACTUALLY is!

If you could carry it off (I never could in a blue moon but want someone to use the idea), fend off bump touchers by casually remarking "and I'm horny as hell during the second trimester too."