Football on Sunday and baby not born yet - what would you do...???

[babyignoramus]

Ok, I'm due (first baby) on Wednesday. DH has the opportunity to go to the Carling cup final on Sunday. He has said that he won't go if I'm still pregnant as he would be worried about leaving me, but has asked if it would be ok for him to go if baby is born between now and then.

My thinking is completely the opposite - I wouldn't mind him going if I haven't had the baby (he works in London so he would only be the same distance away as he has been every other day), but if the baby is born between now and Sunday I have absolutely no idea how I will be feeling, how mobile I will be etc. Eg. if I have a C-Section I might still be in hospital unable to move! If it's born tomorrow I might hit the baby blues on that day. My family is far away so it could be that I'm left on my own all day.

What would you do? He needs to give a definite yay or nay as to whether he's going. We're going to discuss when he gets home. I may suggest that if he goes to the footy with his dad that his mum spends the day with me.

NB before you all flame him, he's not being selfish and has put the ball firmly in my court. Would welcome opinions!!

No, I'm the same as you. I needed the support from dh in those very early days. I'd have gone spare with no visitors at the hospital all day, and if I was just home I'd have wanted someone about.

It depends how you get on with your MIL though. If my mum had been about I wouldn't have been so bothered.

I wasn't too bothered what he did while we were waiting for ds to make an appearance (was 10 days late), as long as it didn't involve too much alcohol.

Tricky. If 'twere me, I'd say no. Sorry to your DH but either way, you need him about. My DH went into work on day 3 after DS was born and it was bloody awful.Baby blues kicked in and he should have been there frankly to help. Plus you may find that if baby arrives before sun he prob won't want to leave you or your new born!

I'd say a big NO to going if baby is born beforehand.
I'd be ok about him going if no baby though as long as he kept in contact and didnt drink.

Thanks all - he has decided that he won't go unless I have the baby very soon and decide I am ok with it.

I think he is daft for worrying less about leaving me with a newborn than leaving me whilst pregnant, but I think it's more because he knows how he feels now, but has no experience of how he will feel when baby is born. Bless 'im.

Hedgewitch - he went last year!!

He sounds lovely babyignoramus!

Which team? If it's United you should stop him going from this, and every other match with them in. Save your unborn child from the hell that is being a United fan!

He does sound lovely though Probably sod's law that you will start off just as they get into extra time!

He's a Spurs fan - glory doesn't often come their way.....

we discussed last night and he explained that his thinking was if he got called away from the game he would be emptying a seat that someone else could have used, plus he wouldn't be able to relax and enjoy the game, whereas if the baby was born he would at least know that wasn't going to happen. I've promised him that we can have it on the telly as long as I'm not actually giving birth at the time!!

His brother's going instead!

He is lovely BTW, I feel very lucky.

Aww, what a sweetheart!

Hoping for an emphatic Spurs victory here!

Don't really have advice but my DP was going to FA Cup Final (I think, v big, important game anyway) the year DD1 was born, game was on the day afer her EDD (first baby, naive). Of course, no signs of labour on EDD so DP v excited about football, gave birth at midday day of said match. In hindsight am very glad it worked out that way, he was there for birth and after and that was that. And since having DD1&2 I realise how completely clueless I was to even contemplate him travelling 140 miles to a boozy football match, even though it was once in a lifetime (West Ham). I think being at the birth of his first child more than made up for missing the football.