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11th week and had a bleed after a positive scan at 9 weeks. need to rest but.............

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forevermore · 23/02/2009 07:43

I haven't told my Boss I am pregnant. I wanted to to wait until Nuchal Scan. But I want to be off sick this week, and I have some important meetings so couldn't just have a 'headache' IFYSWIM, I really wanted to tell him in person. what should i say over the phone?

Also.....Slight bleed was bright red what are my chances after a positive scan at 9 weeks?

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forevermore · 23/02/2009 07:43

BTW no blood since

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EldonAve · 23/02/2009 07:58

Sorry to hear about your bleed

I would just go with "women's problems" and say the hosp has told you to rest
Have you been signed off sick?

forevermore · 23/02/2009 08:07

I think i actually want to tell him the tryth but not sure how to over the phone or even if its appropriate.

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MmeLindt · 23/02/2009 08:10

Something along the lines that you are pregnant and have a threatened miscarriage would mean you don't have to go into detail. I am sure that he doesn't want to know any more than that either.

Good luck, I will be crossing my fingers for you.

mrsgboring · 23/02/2009 08:12

It's not an ideal way to tell, over the phone, but that is one of the reasons why there is so much protection related to pregnant women in employment: because sometimes the situation isn't ideal.

If you think about it, it's the normal way that bosses learn of all sorts of things that mess up their planning. If you'd been in a car crash, broken both legs and were having to have six weeks off work, followed by four months of not being able to climb stairs or travel on business, you would be on the phone, after all, not turning up for a face to face meeting.

Just be polite and acknowledge that this isn't teh way you wanted to announce your pregnancy, but now you need to explain what's going on.

Kyte · 23/02/2009 09:26

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BumpMakesTwoAndABit · 23/02/2009 15:39

I bled for five weeks (7w - 12w) - heavy, bright red. Then I bled again for a day at 14w2 - again, heavy, bright red flow. This pregnancy is straight after a m/c so obviously I was terrified.

I'm now 20w and it seems everything is fine. We can hear the hb on the doppler, I can feel the baby moving internally, and this morning I felt it externally for the first time. The five weeks of bleeding was a subchorionic haematoma, which is very common (don't google it, there are a load of scare stories out there which horrified me - suffice it to say I've spoken to well over 30 women on various internet forums/real life who've had SCHs, all of which resolved naturally with no ill-effect to the baby). No idea what the one day was, as the SCH had bled out by then. Just one of those things, I guess.

I did exactly what the previous poster did - told my boss that I hadn't planned to say anything so early, but I wanted her to know the reasons for my various unplanned hospital trips, and that it was a threatened m/c. She was absolutely fine, said she'd been worried but didn't want to pry, congratulated me on the pregnancy and told me that she'd bled with both hers and they were both fine.

My DH had to leave work unexpectedly a couple of times - when it first happened we were on a weekend away and had to go to A&E at a different hospital. They insisted I stayed till the scan unit reopened on Monday, so DH couldn't go home either (we had just the one car!). Anyway, he told his boss, not expecting a great deal of sympathy (boss doesn't have time for sickness), only to find his boss's attituted changed entirely. Turned out boss's wife had had 2 m/cs, then her current pregnancy had been threatened several times too, explaining the boss's absence a few times.

I do think you should tell. Hopefully there'll be no further scares, but what if it happens at work? Much better to be able to say to your boss you need to go to A&E immediately and not have to explain then...

Hawkmoth · 23/02/2009 16:20

I feel bad cos I told my boss by text! However, I am off sick and I'm sure he already knew as it was getting to be common knowledge. He didn't mind at all, gave a "Isn't it amazing" speech, before finding out how long I would be off and lining up my replacement cover...

ladylush · 23/02/2009 19:52

forevermore I sympathise with your situation Am in the same boat. Like bumpmakestwoandabit I have a subchorionic haematoma and have experienced bright red bleeding since 7+6 weeks (am now 10+5). Baby is ok thankfully but the worry is constantly there . I also need to tell my boss as I took two days off last week and today. Plus the frequent appts. I'm going to tell him this week. Good luck with your pg - hope a scan will put your mind at rest. Do you have access to an EPU?

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