no scan booked and finding it hard not to succumb to paranoia.

[Hangingbellyofbabylon]

I'm 10+1 and had a scan at 5+6. I can't see the midwife till end of next week so no idea when scan will be booked in. I am so worried about having a missed miscarriage, I just keep seeing myself getting to the scan and the baby is dead. It's starting to affect my mental health and although I'm on anti-depressants for previous ante-natal mental health issues, I can feel myself slipping again. I'm away for the next 3 days but I think after that I might have to try and see if they will scan me. Not helped today by the fact that I spent ages trying with a doppler and could only hear my own pulse. I knew it would be impossible as have retroverted uterus and am overweight but still I had to have a go and have now got myself even more worried. .

I worried myself silly with my last pregnancy.

I don't know what to suggest really.

not sure about your finances but a simple dating scan done privately costs approx £99. I had one in my last pregnancy after having a mc previously. A word though: it put my mind at rest for that day or few days then I immediately started worrying again! So didn't really solve anything....

please try not to let worry spoil your pregnancy (easier said than done i know)

I have thought about a private scan but we really can't afford it and dh doesn't feel the paranoia iyswim so I don't think he'd agree. I think I will have to phone the early pregnany unit and beg

I worried up until the 12 week scan, had a few days of relief and then worried until I felt the first movement. Then worried until the 20 week scan, then worried until bump started to show...... it was only once I had a discernable bump with regular movements that I started to relax.

I know that doesn't help much, but know you're not alone. Statistically your pregnancy is much more likely to go right rather than wrong, you just have to remember that you only tend to hear the horror stories!

I understand how you feel as I was paranoid during my recent pregnancy after having m m/c but you really shouldn't be listening with a Doppler at this stage - its far too soon- a midwife wouldn't normally even try for weeks yet. I had a few private scan for the same reason but a scan will only tell you that everything is ok right at that moment. Things can still go wrong after. Sorry if that sounds unhelpful but all you can do each day is tell yourself that as far as you know you are still pregnant and that there is no reason to believe that anything is wrong.

I do know how hard it is but you should try not to worry as much as possible.

Hangingbelly (love the name btw!) been thinking more about this.

It occurred to me what mrsboogie said - MWs will not usually listen with a doppler til (I think) about 14-15 weeks because they know how difficult it is to pick up a heartbeat before then (and they're trained to do it!) so maybe you should not even try for a while yet.

Also have you joined one of the Antenatal threads? There is bound to be one for the month you are due. It might help you to chat with ladies who are at the same stage of pregnancy as you - might share the 'burden' a bit so to speak.

And like babyignoramus said, we all worry, to one degree or not so you're not alone. During my last pg I started threads on here after feeling the baby move at 15 weeks or so and then nothing at all for a couple of weeks. everyone reassured me and they were all right of course!

You mention you are on ADs. I know nothing about these so forgive my ignorance but is it worth chatting to your gp to see if you need any different ones if you feel things are getting worse?

Anyway, best of luck with the pg. Remember your body knows how to do its job x

No advice, but just wanted to come on and say I have been thinking about you a lot this week anyway, so sending oodles of hugs (very unMN)

No advice as such but I am 24 weeks and MW had MAJOR difficulties picking up heartbeat with doppler two weeks ago despite LO kicking away. My placenta is anterior so is blocking the doppler picking it up apparently.

Please try not to worry too much, what did they tell you at your early scan?