Is it normal to spend the last few weeks of pregnancy bellowing at your toddler? (Warning - may include elements of whinging and selfpity)

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I'm 34 weeks and have reached the stage where I can't get comfortable in bed, on the sofa, on the floor, anywhere. I can't pick things up off the floor, I can't play on the floor, DS sitting on my lap is tricky, I can't pick him up, I can't do simple things like hanging out the washing, can't even climb the stairs without getting out of breath, and the baby's bum is pressing really hard into the top of the bump.

Had the day off work today as my mum, who normally looks after DS on a Tuesday, is away. Thought it would be a lovely opportunity to spend some quality time with DS before the baby comes.

But no. I spent most of the day bellowing at him, have absolutely no patience whatsoever, couldn't play with him very easily, and we have just ended it all with a mega tantrum about his bath. Then DP comes home and suddenly all is well and DS is all smiles and says 'we've been waiting for you all day Daddy'....

Feel like the worst mother in the world. Poor child just wants his mummy back the way she was, not this shouty fat bird who's no fun at all.

And I still have five weeks to goooooooooooooooooooooooo! I HAVE HAD ENOUGH!

Not sure I can bear it.

I know there's no advice to be had, but if anyone has any sympathy to offer I'll gladly take it. Or chocolate (although that makes me feel sick too.....)

yeah, i'm 30 weeks and have been like this for....about 28 of those . worse right now though. i'm uncomfortable ALL the time and find DS so HARD!

I'm soooo glad I'm not alone. What's worse is that I'm usually really patient etc etc so poor dd is looking at me as though I'm a total fruitloop. And I'm only 24 weeks (tis twins mind you). So glad you other lovely ladies are feeling the same (though slightly traumatised by the confirmation that it will continue after the birth)

Oh OP I'm so with you. I'm 37 weeks and I'd planned a lovely day with DD, who is usually with my mum on a Tuesday, yesterday. Ended up ringing mum and asking her t o come over cos I couldn't cope with the endless random questions, picking stuff up and general toddler-ish behaviour.

Poor DH is getting it in the neck too .

Oh, I sooo remember that phase. Ds1 (a bit over 2 at the time) used to just run off in the park when I was heavily preg with dd leaving me to lumber after him shouting madly. One day I just sat on a bench and wept. Feel for you - just hang on in there!

gingerninja - i'm with you on the loving it last time but this time not so much thing.

i'm really really trying to enjoy it. i really am.

('it' being 'being pregnant' of course)

Wilbur! Feel your pain at weeping on the bench!

Foolishly walked to the park a few weeks back with dog, and toddler on his balance bike. He threw a mahoosive tantrum and ran off (dog went in opposite direction, natch), by the time I got hold of them (calling husband on the way to come and rescue as I knew it had gone past the point), I sat on the bench with struggling toddler under left arm, and bike and dog lead in my right bawling like a loon until he arrived!

freshhell in answer to your op, yes. The first few weeks of new baby are rather 'shouty' too in my experience and all my friends experiences too.

Wow, all these messages from people in the same boat! Clearly I have hit on a pain we're all feeling....

Today was much better, and not just because I went to work ...I did also remember to take my iron tablet at lunchtime, and that does actually make a difference. DS and I played together for ages when we got back from nursery and I didn't shout once.

Am feeling proud of myself.

I might shout at the people at work who keep going about how big I am though!