What can I do???

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needsomesleepplease · 16/02/2009 23:53

I am just about at my wits end with DH and dont know what to do. I am 26 weeks and have a 20month daughter, and i am finding it really hard going. the problem is he is acting as if i am not pregnant and is just plodding on assuming i am going to do everything i done in the past, i have jumped up and down and screamed that i am not fit to do it all any more but it goes in one ear and out the other. I am not asking for him to do everything but just to think more and think how he can help me instead of me having to ask 4 and 5 times before he does anything.

It makes me feel like i am constantly nagging but all i am looking for is for him to think how he can help or how i am feeling.

Any suggestions on what to do?

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Hawkmoth · 17/02/2009 00:11

Buy the Bloke's Guide to Pregnancy. My DP has enjoyed reading it, tho it is a bit blokey. It's helped him realise that I don't hate him, and also that I'm not up to doing all the things I used to. He's not a first time dad either!

I find that men aren't that good at doing things without being asked first. Maybe write a list, so it's not nagging, it's just anal!!!!!!!

My DP texts me with things to do, as I never notice without having it spelt out... so I have a bit of sympathy with gormless men.

BikeRunSki · 17/02/2009 07:55

Write a list of what needs to be done. Allocate who is going to do what, then don't do anything that is not on "your" list. We didn;t do this when I was pg, but now we have a 5 month baby it works wonders!

ThePregnantHedgeWitch · 17/02/2009 09:44

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chaya5738 · 17/02/2009 10:27

Hmmmm...this is a bit random but I read an article a year ago about dolphin training. Apparently dolphin trainers praise the dolphins when they do something right but never punish them when they do something wrong. The writer of the article tried the technique on her husband - she lavishly praised him when he helped around the house and never yelled or told him off if he didn't do something. She said it worked like a charm. I have tried it on my husband and it does work! He is much more helpful and there is a lot less stress in our household. Just a thought...

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needsomesleepplease · 17/02/2009 13:02

Chaya5738 Thanks but I have tried that - think he thinks i am just patronising him.

I am sure my mum bought him a book the last time i was pregnant - needless to say her never read it (prob because he wasnt "told" to!!) might see if i can dig it out again but wherther he reads it or not is another matter!

Thanks for your help x

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